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Managing Your Cords | Energetic Cord Management

cut-energy-cordsIf you read last weeks post, you were introduced to cords in a really great way. If you haven’t read it, read it first and then come back here because I don’t want to repeat myself! 🙂

Signs You Need to Clear Your Cords

Sometimes we have too many cords surrounding our energy bodies. Or sometimes we have one really big cord that drains us. Sometimes we are (unconsciously) draining others. Here are some signs that it might be a good idea for you to clear your cords:

  • You are constantly feeling fatigued no matter what you do
  • You are in relationships that take a lot of energy – you feel drained after encounters with certain people
  • You are obsessive about a person
  • You cannot stop thinking about a person no matter how hard you try
  • You find it a challenge to attract new people into your life on a consistent basis
  • You can’t seem to let go or get over someone (or an experience with someone)
  • You are overly influenced by another person

Chances are you need to cut your cords if:

  • You have recently experienced a painful break-up
  • You are in one or more unhealthy relationships you would like to shift

Benefits of Cutting/Clearing Your Cords

Cutting or clearing your cords are not the same thing as removing people from your life. You may feel you need to do that after you clear your cords in or order to remain a healthy person yourself. The cutting and clearing of cords can have some potent benefits:

  • You gain more clarity, insight, and awareness on the relationship
  • You become more objective in the relationship
  • If you have given away your power you take it back
  • And vice versa, if you have taken anyone’s power you give it back
  • You have the opportunity to become more yourself because other people aren’t tying up your energy
  • You have more energy
  • You will feel lighter
  • You will be less obsessive and focus more on your own stuff instead of others stuff.
  • It will be easier to release unwanted relationships
  • You will feel more yourself afterwards

How to Cut or Clear Your Cords

Most New Age Websites you will go to will talk about cutting your cords. I also talk about clearing your cords. There is a subtle difference between the two. I experience it like this: You cut your cords for those people that you no longer desire an energy exchange with. You clear your cords for those are in your life in an unhealthy way to create balance and a healthy way of being.

All relationships take work, and this to me, is an important aspect of being in relationship with another. Just as much as we need to take care the mental, emotional and physical aspects, we need to take care of the energetic aspects of our relationships.

Its really easy to clear or cut your cords. There are two ways I have used. Try it out before you give up – these are surprisingly easy and effective methods!

cord_cutting_ropeFirst Process – Clearing General Cords

1. Relax your body and your mind. Take a few moments to get comfortable and pay attention to your breath.
2. Scan your body to see where there is tension and pain. Where is it relaxed? Mentally take note.
3. Call in any Guides/Spirits/Beings you work with if you work with any. If you don’t work with any skip to the next step.
4. Set the intention that you are going to cut and clear your cords.
5. Ask to see (even if you didn’t call anyone in, ask yourself/subconscious/intuition to see) your cords.
6. Take a moment to feel and experience your body and its cords. See it, feel it, know it. Whatever your sensory perception is, it is true for you.
7. Ask that the cords that aren’t serving yourself or others in unconditional love are cleared and released (use any wording here that feels good for you). See/feel/know them falling away. Let them fall away.
8. Continue step 7 until you feel that all you can do for the moment is complete.
9. Thank yourself and any Beings you may have called in for their loving support.
10. Come back from the meditation gently and slowly.

Second Process – Cutting Cords With Intention

Steps 1 to 5 are the same as the first process.

1. Relax your body and your mind. Take a few moments to get comfortable and pay attention to your breath.
2. Scan your body to see where there is tension and pain. Where is it relaxed? Mentally take note.
3. Call in any Guides/Spirits/Beings you work with if you work with any. If you don’t work with any skip to the next step.
4. Set the intention that you are going to cut the cord to a specific individual.
5. Ask to see (even if you didn’t call anyone in, ask yourself/subconscious/intuition to see) the cord that connects you.
6. Take a moment to feel and experience your body the cord. See it, feel it, know it. Whatever your sensory perception is, it is true for you. What is going on with that cord? How is the energy flowing?
7. Visualize scissors or another sharp item and see it cut the cord. You may have to try several times, you may have to visualize light burning through it, softening it. Do what you need to do to cut that cord.
8. When the cord is complete put the cord connected to you back inside of you, and return the other part of the cord to the individual.
9. Make sure you give back the cord in the previous step before moving forward. This step ensures that the cords are permanently cut. Unless you choose to create the cord again.
10. Thank yourself and any Beings you may have called in for their loving support.
11. Come back from the meditation gently and slowly.

If you are having trouble with the process and would like help please email me.

Remember that the person you cut the cords to will feel it in the subtle realms. The more sensitive they are the more they will consciously feel it and react. Most people in my experience don’t really react, however, I have had a sensitive ex-boyfriend who definitely felt it. Afterwards there was a long redefinition of our relationship and how we relate to each other.

I cleared my cords with him particularly and cut the cords several times over in various ways. The more Will you bring to the practise the stronger it is. Each time brought further clarification for me about the different dynamics and unconscious patterns within the relationship.

Use these tools as often as you feel you need to. With practice it gets easier, and you will change the practices to match the way you perceive and work with energy. This is an invaluable skill in your journey of Energy Management.

The Dating Dance | The Energetic Side of a Date | Energetic Cords

online-dating-header2This is inspired by a post on one of the blogs that I follow who posted this here.

In this post I’d like to talk about a couple of things.

First I go over cords because this is all done through the cords. From my understanding, at the beginning of a relationship, most of the dating dance is done in the subtle realms. The physical realms help a lot, of course, however, the energy is potent and can make or break a relationship in my opinion.

The second part is an example of how the dance works. This post is written from a heterosexual point of view, but can be applied to any mixture of gender and couples. It’s all energies, frequencies, and connections.

Next week’s post will be about managing these energetic cords in healthy ways.

It seems to me that there is an energetic sensitivity that occurs between two people dancing the date dance. Every so often I’ve seen it in my head:

Myself and the man are walkie talkies set to our own frequency. Then we go out on a date together which shows us if our frequencies can match each other, if we can talk a similar language, if we can hear each other. Its a dance that comes to an end it seems when we part ways. But then, our frequencies have become attuned to each other. After that point, whether we know it or not, our subconscious and conscious ways of being will effect the result of that date. 

A Brief Lesson On Cords

Even though we are not in each others physical company we still have an energetic cord that has been created. This cord runs from me to him and him to me. It keeps us in tune with each other. And its often subconscious. This is why people say that if you think of someone often they are probably thinking about you. Or why your intuition can tell you more about a person in silence than when your with them.

Because of the cord that has been created you can tune into that person and feel what they are feeling. You get the inside scoop on what is going on for them. Which is probably why women always know when a man is cheating – its whether or not they want to admit it. We can feel where they are putting their time and energy. We are built for it.

But don’t worry men, you can tune into women as well we can tune into you. I’ve dated men who will take the time to tune into me, and I have to admit to you, its a huge selling point for me in a man.

Both parties in a relationship have the same access to the cord that connects you two.

Lets be clear about one thing about these cords: These cords run between you and other people ALL THE TIME.

The deeper and more intimate the relationship the stronger/bigger the cords is. The less depth to the relationship the less the cord is there. Cords are created between you and your family members, friends, work mates, team mates, the barista you received coffee from today, the beggar on the street… Absolutely everyone!

connectingsoulsCords are part of a natural process of life that allows us to develop deeper connections with those we desire to and to stay tuned into those people. The people that after several months of not talking to we want to call up and say “Hey” or the people that pop into our heads. “I needed to call George because I felt like something was wrong. It turns out that he had a terrible fall the other day and just got out of the hospital.”

Healthy cords allow us to feel connected and supported within the web of people that we know. We are in a constant state of giving and taking energetically. The cords allow the energy we need to come to us and the energy others need to be gifted to them in this constant flux.

Unhealthy cords create unhealthy tendencies in relationships. Some examples of these behaviours are the following:

  • an unhealthy obsession will occur
  • one person inside the relationship will be constantly fatigued (or if a person has several cords connecting in unhealthy ways then that person might be constantly tired)
  • a codependent relationship may occur
  • or a person will be almost addicted to another person.

It is because of the cord that is developed on a date that a sensitivity to another person is developed. The person at the other end of the cord can literally feel what you are putting out there. Are you putting out a desperate vibe? Are you putting out a i-liked-him-had-a-great-night-will-trust-that-he-calls-me-goes-about-my-day-vibe?

Whichever vibe you are feeding is what he will feel through the cord that connects the both of you.

And he will match his response to that vibe.

Just as you will match your response to his vibe.

In my experience, this is how unhealthy people enter into a relationship with other unhealthy people while healthy people attract healthy people.

If the frequency you put off when you are away from that person matches their blueprint (the way that perceive and function in relationships) that person will generally pursue the relationship.

An Example

I go on a date with a man and we match well. I feel really connected to him, and I feel the night has gone amazing. We may have even shared a kiss! When he drops me off, he says, “I’ll call you tomorrow.” I say, “Please do.” with a grin, and leave on a high.

If I am in an unhealthy state of mind I might be obsessively checking my phone, allowing whether or not he calls me to affect my mood. I may obsess for a few days before taking action and doing something about it. Perhaps I have been thinking about him non-stop. I may not be focused on what I am doing because I am so focused on him. Maybe even stop doing what I need to do because this has affected me so much.

The man feels this when he thinks about me. That’s all he has to do in order to tune into my energy. The more aware he is the more conscious information he will receive, however, he will still receive information in the subtle realms and respond appropriately for his blueprint.

If he is operating a healthy state of mind most likely in that extreme scenario he would not be interested in pursuing the relationship further. If he is in an unhealthy state of mind he would probably pursue the relationship as long as he felt that it could match the blueprint he holds for his relationships.

cordsIf I am in a healthy state of mind the next day then I would find myself not obsessing, but curious and open. I would be doing what I need to do with the glow of the possibility of new love. I would have patience to let it grow as it will grow and to nurture it into something.

There is a lack of attachment that the unhealthy state of mind often has – an attachment to fulfilling oneself in some way instead of allowing the relationship to be the cherry on to of an already fulfilling life.

A man operating from an unhealthy state of mind might pursue me but find himself quickly rejected due to the blueprint of what I perceive a healthy relationship. A man operating from a healthy state of mind might pursue me and we might find that even if the relationship doesn’t continue as lovers that we can be in relationship to each other in healthy ways.

That, to me, is the energetic dance of dating.

It’s something to think about and be aware of, but not something obsess over. It’s something to witness inside of yourself and consciously make choices about what kind of frequency you put out to increase the probability of what you desire coming true.

Think beyond just relationships with lovers. This is a micro view of a macro. This is a pattern that holds true for all areas of life. The frequency you put out will attract that in the subtle realms.

And its all learning.

Stay tuned for next weeks post on healthy ways to manage your cords.

Question: Why do we incarnate into human beings in the first place?

Q: “If we have the ability to reach a metaphysical existence, why do we incarnate into human beings in the first place? This is connected to why can we light travel in the first place; is that what we’re here to do, or is it an interesting peculiarity of humans?

I’ve heard about needing to clear densities, “repent” for past lives, and other explanations before. What are your thoughts?”
A: My favourite answer to your question is a bit of a story, but it is one that I love and suits my framework quite well:

Everything was created in the Universe by the Universe. The Universe loved all of it, but because the Universe had created it all from itself it was also everything. This meant that the Universe was not able to experience itself because there was no separation from itself. Thus the Universe decided to separate a portion from itself so that it would have the ability to experience all aspects of the Universe. That act created our souls, and all souls. Our souls then began to experience the Universe, and the Universe was able to experience all there was in its creations. Our souls travelled, lived, spoke, felt. We went everywhere and we still do – we are here, we were aliens, we were in hell, and we were in heaven. We experienced alternate realities and dimensions.
Our soul is always craving the wholeness of ‘home’, always trying to get home, often forgetting that we are here to experience, to grow, to love. By accepting and allowing that process we connect more fully to our ‘home’ which is all around us. That is how we reflect our love back to the Universe. That is how we become one with it.
Each one comes into life, into Being, with a specific purpose or intent of what they would to experience in this life, of what we would like to gift to the Universe. At the same time we use our experiences to connect deeper to our own soul and to allow our soul to come out more beautifully and to facilitate that in others. By connecting to our Soul we are the Universe, we are “enlightened”, we are “ascending”, we are One. It’s a beautiful circle of perfection.Perhaps that is why we are always trying so hard to connect – our soul birth was an act of separation and therefore we feel it so deeply as a whole?

What do you think?

How do Psychics Tell the Future?

Have you ever wondered how it is possible for psychics to tell the future? Have you ever wondered how it works? How is it that a person can tell the future and it sometimes actually come true? What about all those people who claim to tell the future and it doesn’t come true?

When a client asks about the future in a reading this is what happens for me:

I feel all the various probabilities that are in existence for question. It’s very fast, and doesn’t take long because I only feel into the strongest possibilities. Those are the only ones that the client and I truly care about. It is the strongest possibility that I relate to the client. If there are several that are highly probable I tell the client all of them including with what will make each possibility happen.

Because the world we live in is energy, it is constantly shifting. The future is a finicky thing. If I knock over the salt today, maybe that’s changed everything and I simply am not aware of it.

Here’s a clip of Griffin from Men in Black 3, a character I love. He’s an awesome example of what it’s like to be a super strong conscious and aware psychic all the time. He’s always standing right on the edge of doing something because he can see all the probabilities but he doesn’t know how to act or what to do until the millisecond before the future comes true because its only then that he knows exactly which one is true.

Here’s a clip of him:

As Heraclitus infamously said: “Change is the only constant in life.”

I can only tell you possibilities, albeit the strongest possibilities.

Soul Family Q&A

Here are the channelled Q&A I did with the Akashic Records with a group of questions I thought might be helpful. If you don’t find your question here and want an answer, please email me and I will see what I can do.

How do I find my light?

The most easy and effective way for people to find their light is for each of the to BE themselves and allow their evolution to happen. The more in tune a person becomes the more their light will shine. It really helps when people stay open and breathe – staying in the present keeps us strong. Its a practice that gets easier all the time. Breathe and be.

What does it mean and look like to be open hearted?

To be open hearted means to live from the heart instead of fear or the ego. Love always keeps us open to possibilities and opportunities, it allows us to accept everyone for who they are, it allows us to trust ourselves and our world. Open hearted is like a flower that has blossomed or a calm ocean on a sunny day.

When a person is open hearted they live moment by moment with confidence, grace, openness and love. They know feelings are fleeting and they know no matter what they will be taken care of – they will be okay. They are able to live in a state of detached grace for everything will be as it is which is perfection always for the moment.

This is a practice of living from love, true love, love for yourself.

How do we know we’ve met our soul family?

You know you’ve met your soul family when you feel like you’ve come home again. You know them by the feeling of recognition you have when you first meet them and by their quiet grace they often impact our lives.

Soul family members range just as much as human families range. It is important to remember that. The soul family often takes on HUGE roles that change your life for the better, and can be dramatic. A member of your soul family always sticks around or comes back into your life after an explosion.

Your soul family accepts you for you, even when you’ve changed. They know your essence not just your human form.

Soul family creates a community of love around you. They will there always through thick and thin, similar to blood brothers.

Soul families help your growth and also provide a feeling of stability and often ground members through hard lessons.

You know your family when you feel you’ve found your home. Each member carries a bit of home for you which allows you, helps you, to simply be your truth.

I feel like I’ve met someone who is soul family, but they disagree. Why?

This is such a difficult question to answer because there are so many variables such as levels of awareness, knowledge, belief systems and so on. Let the relationship unfold organically and see what it brings you. Many things can happen. Life shows us a bit at a time.

Is my soul mate/ twin flame/ the one always part of the same soul family?

No, but most often yes. Some lovers are meant to bring together two soul families into one expanded one. All soul families are related to each other in some way for each family are souls enacting various aspects of the Universal Energies.

Can I change soul families?

No. Your soul was born, created, with certain other souls to create a group working and helping each other with a certain purpose. You may join and play with other families but you can’t change the family you are born into as a soul any more than your human birth family.

Do soul families live and are born in the same area geographically?

This depends on the soul that is being born and the souls raising the new human. This is usually a decision made by the soul before birth if they will travel to meet their family or if they will be born where their family is.

If you have any questions about soul family feel free to contact me. 🙂

For your reference I’ve found a YouTube Video that talks about Soul Families and Soul Groups. It was the only one I could find, which I found strange, as soul families are so important.

Affirmations – From an Energetic Perspective

I didn’t really get what affirmations were really about until recently. Strange I know. I simply never took the time to understand them and how they work.

Then over a period of a couple months affirmations came into my life strongly from all directions:

  • The class I was in did a class on affirmations and showed this movie with Louise L Hay.
  • The book I was reading, “A Millionaire Course” by Marc Allen, taught me how to create affirmations that match my goals.
  • A friend of mine is writing a book of affirmations in beautiful script.

And I found that during the challenges I was facing at the time, the one thing that kept me sane was affirmations. They weren’t anything fancy. When I caught myself saying something negative in my head I would counter it with the opposite thought said several times over.

It was effective, and so I decided to try out Marc Allen’s process. I figured I was reading the book, so why not try it? Through the process laid out in the book I created affirmations that totally matched my book. And I said them every single morning.

It was not long before I began to notice changes in my life. Most of them were subtle. But they were noticeable.

I began to attract people and situations that would set myself up for the exact life that I wanted. There is only one goal that I have yet to see movement on.

I didn’t change who I was or what I was doing. But each morning I put the energy out there that this was what I was creating, and that was the way it was going to be today.

A basic rule of the universe: Where you put your energy, you will see growth.

Words and thoughts are energy.

Every time you say a word, every time you think a thought, you are helping create something. That something could be anything – it could be your life, your home, your relationships, your world, your mindset, your dreams.

And like a plant, it will grow.

Waking up each morning and stating what it is that you desire to create most in your life, and stating who you want to be gives a focus to your day. It helps you to think positively, and it helps you to see the opportunities that are surrounding you big and small that will be a step to what you want to create.

There is a subtle mental shift that effects you on all levels when the words are spoken aloud. Most of us have experienced being excited about an idea and then one person – it doesn’t matter if it is a stranger or a person close to us – says one something that brings forth an idea of impossibility, or something similar. We feel deflated.

What happened there?

Here is a simplified possible picture:

You had an idea, something you’ve just begun thinking about, and it is like a baby. It can’t yet stand on its own. It has to be loved, caressed, and taken care of. It needs time grow so it can stand on its own feet. When it has grown more solid it will be able to withstand anybody’s words or thoughts that do not resonate with its creation.

I am not saying that no one can say anything negative. I am saying that when you have an idea, a newborn, you need to protect it for a time from everything outside. Then it will be able to withstand criticism healthy or not. Then it will be malleable instead of being like a dead leaf on a tree in the fall: the first wind that comes blows it down.

Let’s say for our example, the other person may frequently think in impossibilities. They may have been thinking like that for days, months or even years. Their words carry behind them all of the energy of every thought that supports what they’ve said to you. On top of that, their words might also carry energy from our society.

Energetically you have a small ball of energy, that has just been birthed, against a large ball of energy , that has had time to grow.

What do you think will happen?

Now lets say that you meet a person and tell them your idea. They go “That’s great! That’s fantastic! Tell me more!” And you do. As you tell them more and the conversation continues new ideas come up, people come up, ways to make the impossible become possible and it no longer seems or feels impossible. Your baby is growing up and getting strong.

Then you meet the person who thinks in impossibilities. They say it won’t be possible, and you can feel that arguing will be useless, even though you don’t believe them. You know your idea is possible in your heart of hearts, even though you might not know how. You know that it will work someday.

Energetically you’ve created a larger ball of energy that has witnessed a large ball of energy. Now both have seen each other and the smaller is strong enough and has chosen to step away from the fight and give itself space and time to grow.

Affirmations are like the person that you meet who say “That’s great! That’s Fantastic! Tell me more!” They are reminders of the possibility, of why you are here, of what you are working for and of all you are hoping to achieve and be with your life.

And every time you say and think them you are watering the seed of your idea. When your seed has grown large and strong enough it will be unveiled to the world. When it is unveiled it will be able to withstand all that comes at it as long as your vision and idea remains malleable.

The most effective affirmations are said with emotion while staying detached. Staying detached allows your idea and vision to be created most effectively in our world because more often than not there it can be created in a way than you ever thought possible.

It happens often in my life where I wanted something, became rigid with the how it was to be created, didn’t see it. As soon as I let go of it, and said this is where I want to be, I don’t know how its going to happen but it will happen, it did happen in a way more beautiful and better than I ever thought.

Affirmations are not your path, they are your vision.

Emotion adds more umph to the words, just like visualizing the affirmation coming true adds more energy to the seed. All of these things provide water, sunlight and nutrients to your affirmations.

Slowly but surely with daily use you will begin to witness your affirmations coming true, and notice beliefs shifting inside of you to allow them to come true.

Find Your Magic!

Last Thursday I brought some magic in the world. It was unplanned and completely accidental on my part, but I discovered a way to bring joy into the world in an unexpected manner.

The story begins when I went shopping for book and instead came out of the store with a large pair of beautiful purple faerie wings.

The wings are unlike ones I’ve seen before: Like butterfly wings, they have small silver dots outlining the membranes on the sheer dark purple fabric with purple gemstones tastefully spotting each wing. They may have fit me a little too perfectly: the woman at the till almost didn’t charge me for them because they suited my outfit so well!

When I came out of the store I was quick to realize that I was on my bike, and had no alternative but to wear them for the remainder of my errands on my way home. Shrugging my shoulders, I hopped on my bike and became a bicycle faerie zooming around Victoria!

It was to my utmost surprise how people responded. People would spot me, and after a look of surprise a big grin would spread across their face that was usually followed with a witty comment or a question. At a stop light a fellow biker asked, “Do your wings make you go faster?”; A car drove by down a main road and a man yelled “I LOVE YOU!”; A woman at a store I dropped my resume at smiled big; a woman at a coffee shop inhaled sharply and said “Angel.”.

And all of it created warm fuzzy sensations within my heart spreading to a large smile on my face.

I decided that I will wear these wings much more often now, whenever my activities and the weather permits it.

“You were bringing magic into the world.” Said a friend of mine with glee when I told her about my experience with the wings.

It followed a conversation that happened the very same day where I found myself saying something like this:“Magic is exactly what is needed in that world. That magic brings healing to a part inside of our self that can otherwise never be healed. Magic is a part of us, and it needs to be allowed to live inside our world more and more.”

I firmly believe that.

This is the kind of magic that I love. It doesn’t take a lot of time, and it doesn’t usually require much of anything because it is so simple. It is simply finding the right kind of magic for your heart.

Sometimes it is playing on the swings, or doodling in chalk. Perhaps it is blowing bubbles in your chocolate milk, throwing snowballs or making snow angels. Maybe its painting, or another act of creation. It could be skateboarding or skipping, getting dressed up in exactly what you want to wear because its beautiful or it could be attacking someone with a hug.

You’ve found the right magic for you when the heart opens with an expansive happiness and the grin on your face can’t be controlled.

When magic comes alive inside our world a part inside of us seems to open up and we can’t help but smile. That same part opens up when we allow ourselves to create or when we allow our inner child to come up for air for a brief moment. Each moment that we have of this magic heals a part of us. It opens up our minds to new possibilities, nurtures our inner child, draws out wonder and curiosity, and allows more intuition to come forth.

I know each one of us has access to it because it naturally resides in each of us. It is a magic that children naturally have that often seems to become hidden as they grow up.

This magic is so important because of the joy it gives us and manifests into our worlds. More ways of adults expressing and allowing this joy into their lives is needed everywhere.

It is through joy that we can manifest everything that we want. This joy helps us to see the world as a world of light even when it seems dark because we are able to see outside of ourselves. It helps us to get unstuck and out of ruts because in a single instant it can lift our mood from a dark depression to an at least “okay, maybe the world isn’t so bad.”.

The more we practice this magic in our lives in little ways the more it spontaneously happen on its own. I know people who have tapped into this without expressing it with such words and they are some of the happiest people that I know. Their lives have not been any easier than the rest of us and they have done their share of healing, part of which was using this magic.

These people might call it “following your bliss” or “experiencing the world with open-hearted joy”. Others might say its “working with your inner child”. Its up to you how you want to view it and express it.

I personally believe that there is magic in this world. It is in each one of us waiting to be accessed and it is one of, if not, the strongest force in nature. We get glimpses of it every now and then through our creativity, our intuition and other certain moments that bring smiles to our faces.

The first step to working with it is discovering how you can feel your magic. The  next step is to connect with it as often as you can.

Then the unexpected will begin to happen and you will start to see magic working in your life.

Leaf Deadly or Not

I went to the park and while I was there, did a Reiki session on myself. I was lying on a beautiful moss covered rock surrounded by oak trees that overlooked the shaggy grass, blackberry bushes and small trees that cover the bottom half of the park. I began contemplating the plants surrounding me and an experience I had while waiting for food from the Miracle Center…

Standing with two other women beside the garden I breathe deeply as a waft of mint gently floats by. “Mmmm… smells so good.”

One of the women reaches down and touches the leaves of one of the small plants in the garden. “It’s mint, from here.”

Excitedly I look at the small plant with purple flowers on its top, similar to lavender. “It doesn’t look like a mint I’m familiar with; perhaps its spearmint?”

She shrugs, and points at a large bush behind the mint plants. “I think this is bay leaf.”

We both smelled the plant, and laughed because we could only smell mint now that we had rubbed our fingers along the mint leaves.

“I wonder if it is bay leaf. I don’t want to try it just in case its not.” She said.

Now as I lie on my rock in the park I contemplated that statement. A small bite of a leaf or a berry will not harm most healthy people. Yet I’ve also been told as a child not to try leaves or berries because some of them are deadly. Even now I often wonder what something is, and instinctively want to try the leaves or the fruit. I catch myself because of the fear that I might get sick.

Sure we might have a bit of a reaction, but it will not kill us. Herbs are known to help us, never to harm us unless we take them in a large amount. It is such a delight to try a mysterious plant that calls to me only to find when I taste it that I recognize it! My whole being lights up with joy!

Since when did a bite of a leaf become something that we avoid?

And if a small bite of a leaf or berry is indeed that powerful what are we doing trying to heal ourselves with pills? Those pills take a bit of the original plant and put it in an artificial form filled with other things that may or may not help us. Most of us don’t really know what is in that pill.

The whole part of the plant will help us in a natural form that compliments our bodies. It is not a foreign object that yes, our body can digest, but is it easy on our bodies?

Lying on the moss covered rock I looked around at the plants that have slowly become more and more my friends since moving out to the West Coast. My heart fills with love and gratitude for their healing energies and also their wisdom. It makes me sad to feel that their wisdom is being lost among the general populace.

Did you know that red roses can be used to stop bleeding? Their petals can be dried and ground into a powder that can be used on sore throats. They can also be used in a salve that will help heal rashes, sores and cuts. Pretty cool eh? They smell good too.

Everywhere I walk there are red roses blooming in Victoria. How many people will think of saving them for future use.

The Universe has given us a pharmacy right outside our doorstep. I’ve heard that saying before and its only in the past few months that I’ve really been able to experience it in action. I’ve begun to enjoy searching out the plants, identifying and naming them. Here in Victoria, when walking or biking I am able to point out the plants that I’ve learned and recite to myself what I’ve learned they can help with.

I feel proud and empowered when I experience a symptom of something and can walk out my door with nothing only to walk back in a few hours later with a herb that will relieve it. I’m not sure I will ever know all the herbs and their properties, but I would be happy with a working knowledge that remedies most common complaints.

For a time I was thinking to myself how amazing it would be if basic herbalism and gardening and other such skills were taught in the public school system. I stumbled into a program here in Victoria, called Lifecycles, which is doing just that. And I’m now a volunteer there! I’m super excited about it because I get to learn, and participate in teaching children about the planet. How cool is that?

There is still so much to learn and I am looking forward to my explorations. I am so grateful that Victoria has such a huge group of people that are involved in learning and teaching this medicine. The Ecovillage movement is rapidly growing here as more and more people are drawn to community living in balance with nature and organic foods.

Not only in Victoria is a movement of living closer to the Earth growing. In Russia in 2006 a law was passed giving a hectare of land to any willing family free of charge that can be passed down generationally. This was implemented in the hopes to reduce poverty and homelessness while providing more income for the families, from my understanding. It may have possibly been based on the plan from The Ringing Cedar Series.

I believe both of these movements will continue to grow as they feel to be a much needed step. They may not be perfect, but it is through taking a step that we get closer to something “perfect”.

My heart is happy to be witness to these positive steps of change that are occurring. YAY humanity!

I’m excited to continue delving into learning more about plants and how to preserve and grow food. I know the knowledge will come in handy someday… Perhaps when I’m living on my own plot of land on an Ecovillage or in a situation similar to Russia…? 🙂

Are there herbs that you regularly use? What for? Do you see the value of herbal medicine? What do you think of the law passed in Russia and Ecovillages?

The Spiral Change

I’ve done it! I’ve finished my business plan and my request for business seed money has been granted! With endings come new beginnings, and since the completion of my business plan I’ve been very focused on writing and creating this blog. One of my advisers noticed this, and recently in our conversation brought up his surprise as to where I am putting all my attention to.

“Shouldn’t you be more focused on Willows Lavender than your blog at this point? If you focus on many different things, you can only do a little bit at a time, but if you focus on one thing you can get a lot more done in a shorter time period?”

He was right. And so I informed him, that honestly, I just don’t know what the next step is with Willows Lavender. What do I need to do now?

We didn’t come up with an answer because we didn’t know what I needed to do. But this conversation did prompt me to pull some cards before I went to sleep that night. The cards that I pulled were: Inner Power, Self-Reliance, and Quiet Time. I spent some time feeling them and this is what passed through my mind:

  • Starting and running my own business is a huge step in taking back my power and owning it. I need to be in my power as a business owner.
  • This business is a way for me to become more self-reliant on myself, learn to find the answers of what I need to do next by myself, for I am full of wisdom if I will listen to it.
  • Take some time off from working and allow yourself to open to the wisdom wishing to be heard.

I thanked the cards, put them away, and rolled into sleep fully intending to take the next day off to work more with my own inner guidance.
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Spiral Times began in 2009 as an experiment, which each and every post has been since then. It began because I felt a need to share with others my experiences, thoughts, dreams and desires – many of which I have never taken the time to write down and post about. Spiral Times fell aside as life’s many lessons came full blast to me over the next few years until I was once again ready to post, which was last year at the end of 2011.

Never has Spiral Times lost its meaning to me, and today I would like to share with you why this blog is named as such because it is named for a moment that is still very vivid in my mind and that has greatly affected the way that I live and experience life.

In that particular moment, five years ago, my heart was being torn in many different directions. I knew that no matter which way I chose to go I would lose something important to me and so I couldn’t make up my mind in which direction to go. Crying out in despair for help, tears rolling down my face (it was dramatic in my mind so imagine it as so!), I was suddenly transported to another very different place.

I was walking up the slope of a white-blue spiral in a dimensionless and timeless space. The spiral expanded above and below me, and held other people who were also in various stages of ascending or descending. Sometimes they were even sitting or pacing back and forth on the spiral.

At the same time I saw and felt this, I knew that this spiral represented human consciousness. I knew that one could go up or down this spiral in whatever form or fashion one wanted to take. There were no good or bad, and no part of the spiral was better than any other part. However, the higher up the spiral one was the more “truths” one was aware of because the higher up the spiral the more “truths” one had lived. The higher truths encompassed and expanded the lower truths (for lack of me knowing the words that would better explain this experience without judgement I will use lower and higher even though no part on the spiral is better than another). Each person was living their truth, and as such was on the part of the spiral that vibrated to their truth. As each person lived they were making choices to expand or minimize their truth and change where they were on the spiral.

As I felt myself move up the spiral I returned to the living room and watched a spiral dissipate into the air, literally moving up from where I was.

This blog honors that moment that taught me so much so quickly. It was a moment that became the basis of many of my beliefs and that reminds me to argue less, to never try to convince or persuade a person, to bring compassion and understanding to every encounter, to all change to happen as it naturally does in life and with people. As your truth and vibrations change so does your life to match.

And yes, I get lost in the everyday world, and sometimes I’m not able to live these ideals, but the spiral reminds me of these ideals.

As I shift, Spiral Times shifts. Writing here for the last few months has allowed me to come to know what it is exactly that I really want to put on in the world at this moment. What I have been writing here doesn’t belong here. It belongs to Willows Lavender.

And so the Spiral Times is going to shift, make a transition, perhaps even experience a metamorphosis into what I’ve been guided that it needs to be.

On May 1st I will post again to inform you of any updates, and hopefully the Spiral Times will resume its journey anew at that time.

Until then,
Adios.

Boundaries and the Solar Plexus

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This is something that I have personally have a lot of trouble with, though I am far better now than I ever have been. It has taken a long time for

me to understand exactly what a boundary is, what it feels like (which is can be a necessity to me in understanding things fully) and how I encounter them.

When I left Winnipeg I recall Grams telling me that I have no boundaries. At the time I was slightly miffed to hear that, insulted even. Of course I had boundaries! Everyone has boundaries! That statement brought into my awareness boundaries and boundary setting and began my attempts of understanding what she was talking back.

Now I look back and I can see that I really didn’t have boundaries. I barely have boundaries today – though they are formulating and shaping themselves as I become more aware of what I want, like and need.

Not working the last few months I’ve floated along with life as everyone else – aka people who I love and are very close to me – deals with their busy schedules and lives. I’ve gotten bored, unmotivated, tired of working, and also found it very easy to schedule my activities around their lives.

So I’ve been around and very available.

My close friends have gotten used to me being available, and I love interacting with them. Lately, I’ve been highly motivated to finish up the projects that I’m working on by the end of March at the latest. This creates a crossroads for me – set my boundary and restrict my time with these people, or “float”.

Now they are the perfect people to practice setting boundaries with! Sometimes I fail, and sometimes I succeed, but my successes are becoming greater than the fails. Here are some things that I noticed about boundaries as I contemplated them this past week.

I fear creating and setting boundaries. Deep down inside I am scared that if I set one the other person will never want to speak to me again. It’s unrealistic and not true. I counter this fear with the belief that people like people who have boundaries – it makes you less passive and people feel comfortable because decisions are made mutually by taking into account both people’s needs, wants and likes.

Boundaries require awareness of who I am in the physical. A lot of the cues that I get that a boundary is being violated by me or another person is given in my physical body. There’s an intuitive thought or “alarm” followed by dissociating from my body. As I practice staying in my body, it’s becoming more obvious to me when I’ve disassociated. At those times I need to reach back into my body and focus on my breath.

Energetically, boundaries have a lot to do with taking back my power and controlling my life. This stems from an imbalance in the Solar Plexus chakra or energy center (you can read a post on here on MommyMystics website about what the chakras are), and most likely accounts for the pains and shifts that occur in my digestive/solar plexus area.

This is also coincides with the guidance I’ve been feeling and receiving messages of: Its time to take the power back in my life, to stand up for what

Stepping up into my power.

my needs and wants are. By setting boundaries I take control of my life and what happens instead of passively letting the river take me wherever it wants to go. Now I see this and understand it.

When my boundaries are set and stay in place I feel centered and grounded. Overall generally more at ease with life and what is going on with me. I feel like myself, and in my body. My stress level remains low because I feel that I am accomplishing everything that I need and want to do, plus experiencing what I want out of life.

I’ve learned that when I have set healthy boundaries on an energetic level the world around me does not drive me half as crazy. By shielding (imagining I am in a bubble of sorts), sometimes in multiple layers and colors, I am able to enter a Future Shop without getting a headache within ten minutes, or go to Walmart without becoming overwhelmed by the sheer volume of energy.

With healthy boundaries I am able to speak with people inside and outside of sessions without taking on their energy, emotions or feelings. I can feel my little bubble reflecting off the little bullets of emotions and thoughts. This makes me feel good about myself, which in turn increases my self-esteem. Aha, I think I’m getting it now how self-esteem works and is created… A to-do list doesn’t cut it for me.

Now that I have identified what it feels like to have boundaries and what I feel like when I don’t, reflection brings forth the next question: How am I going to better implement healthy boundaries in my life, and step further into my power?

My answer at this point: Improve communication skills. Awareness. Practice. Your suggestions are welcome.