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Managing Your Cords | Energetic Cord Management

cut-energy-cordsIf you read last weeks post, you were introduced to cords in a really great way. If you haven’t read it, read it first and then come back here because I don’t want to repeat myself! 🙂

Signs You Need to Clear Your Cords

Sometimes we have too many cords surrounding our energy bodies. Or sometimes we have one really big cord that drains us. Sometimes we are (unconsciously) draining others. Here are some signs that it might be a good idea for you to clear your cords:

  • You are constantly feeling fatigued no matter what you do
  • You are in relationships that take a lot of energy – you feel drained after encounters with certain people
  • You are obsessive about a person
  • You cannot stop thinking about a person no matter how hard you try
  • You find it a challenge to attract new people into your life on a consistent basis
  • You can’t seem to let go or get over someone (or an experience with someone)
  • You are overly influenced by another person

Chances are you need to cut your cords if:

  • You have recently experienced a painful break-up
  • You are in one or more unhealthy relationships you would like to shift

Benefits of Cutting/Clearing Your Cords

Cutting or clearing your cords are not the same thing as removing people from your life. You may feel you need to do that after you clear your cords in or order to remain a healthy person yourself. The cutting and clearing of cords can have some potent benefits:

  • You gain more clarity, insight, and awareness on the relationship
  • You become more objective in the relationship
  • If you have given away your power you take it back
  • And vice versa, if you have taken anyone’s power you give it back
  • You have the opportunity to become more yourself because other people aren’t tying up your energy
  • You have more energy
  • You will feel lighter
  • You will be less obsessive and focus more on your own stuff instead of others stuff.
  • It will be easier to release unwanted relationships
  • You will feel more yourself afterwards

How to Cut or Clear Your Cords

Most New Age Websites you will go to will talk about cutting your cords. I also talk about clearing your cords. There is a subtle difference between the two. I experience it like this: You cut your cords for those people that you no longer desire an energy exchange with. You clear your cords for those are in your life in an unhealthy way to create balance and a healthy way of being.

All relationships take work, and this to me, is an important aspect of being in relationship with another. Just as much as we need to take care the mental, emotional and physical aspects, we need to take care of the energetic aspects of our relationships.

Its really easy to clear or cut your cords. There are two ways I have used. Try it out before you give up – these are surprisingly easy and effective methods!

cord_cutting_ropeFirst Process – Clearing General Cords

1. Relax your body and your mind. Take a few moments to get comfortable and pay attention to your breath.
2. Scan your body to see where there is tension and pain. Where is it relaxed? Mentally take note.
3. Call in any Guides/Spirits/Beings you work with if you work with any. If you don’t work with any skip to the next step.
4. Set the intention that you are going to cut and clear your cords.
5. Ask to see (even if you didn’t call anyone in, ask yourself/subconscious/intuition to see) your cords.
6. Take a moment to feel and experience your body and its cords. See it, feel it, know it. Whatever your sensory perception is, it is true for you.
7. Ask that the cords that aren’t serving yourself or others in unconditional love are cleared and released (use any wording here that feels good for you). See/feel/know them falling away. Let them fall away.
8. Continue step 7 until you feel that all you can do for the moment is complete.
9. Thank yourself and any Beings you may have called in for their loving support.
10. Come back from the meditation gently and slowly.

Second Process – Cutting Cords With Intention

Steps 1 to 5 are the same as the first process.

1. Relax your body and your mind. Take a few moments to get comfortable and pay attention to your breath.
2. Scan your body to see where there is tension and pain. Where is it relaxed? Mentally take note.
3. Call in any Guides/Spirits/Beings you work with if you work with any. If you don’t work with any skip to the next step.
4. Set the intention that you are going to cut the cord to a specific individual.
5. Ask to see (even if you didn’t call anyone in, ask yourself/subconscious/intuition to see) the cord that connects you.
6. Take a moment to feel and experience your body the cord. See it, feel it, know it. Whatever your sensory perception is, it is true for you. What is going on with that cord? How is the energy flowing?
7. Visualize scissors or another sharp item and see it cut the cord. You may have to try several times, you may have to visualize light burning through it, softening it. Do what you need to do to cut that cord.
8. When the cord is complete put the cord connected to you back inside of you, and return the other part of the cord to the individual.
9. Make sure you give back the cord in the previous step before moving forward. This step ensures that the cords are permanently cut. Unless you choose to create the cord again.
10. Thank yourself and any Beings you may have called in for their loving support.
11. Come back from the meditation gently and slowly.

If you are having trouble with the process and would like help please email me.

Remember that the person you cut the cords to will feel it in the subtle realms. The more sensitive they are the more they will consciously feel it and react. Most people in my experience don’t really react, however, I have had a sensitive ex-boyfriend who definitely felt it. Afterwards there was a long redefinition of our relationship and how we relate to each other.

I cleared my cords with him particularly and cut the cords several times over in various ways. The more Will you bring to the practise the stronger it is. Each time brought further clarification for me about the different dynamics and unconscious patterns within the relationship.

Use these tools as often as you feel you need to. With practice it gets easier, and you will change the practices to match the way you perceive and work with energy. This is an invaluable skill in your journey of Energy Management.

The Dating Dance | The Energetic Side of a Date | Energetic Cords

online-dating-header2This is inspired by a post on one of the blogs that I follow who posted this here.

In this post I’d like to talk about a couple of things.

First I go over cords because this is all done through the cords. From my understanding, at the beginning of a relationship, most of the dating dance is done in the subtle realms. The physical realms help a lot, of course, however, the energy is potent and can make or break a relationship in my opinion.

The second part is an example of how the dance works. This post is written from a heterosexual point of view, but can be applied to any mixture of gender and couples. It’s all energies, frequencies, and connections.

Next week’s post will be about managing these energetic cords in healthy ways.

It seems to me that there is an energetic sensitivity that occurs between two people dancing the date dance. Every so often I’ve seen it in my head:

Myself and the man are walkie talkies set to our own frequency. Then we go out on a date together which shows us if our frequencies can match each other, if we can talk a similar language, if we can hear each other. Its a dance that comes to an end it seems when we part ways. But then, our frequencies have become attuned to each other. After that point, whether we know it or not, our subconscious and conscious ways of being will effect the result of that date. 

A Brief Lesson On Cords

Even though we are not in each others physical company we still have an energetic cord that has been created. This cord runs from me to him and him to me. It keeps us in tune with each other. And its often subconscious. This is why people say that if you think of someone often they are probably thinking about you. Or why your intuition can tell you more about a person in silence than when your with them.

Because of the cord that has been created you can tune into that person and feel what they are feeling. You get the inside scoop on what is going on for them. Which is probably why women always know when a man is cheating – its whether or not they want to admit it. We can feel where they are putting their time and energy. We are built for it.

But don’t worry men, you can tune into women as well we can tune into you. I’ve dated men who will take the time to tune into me, and I have to admit to you, its a huge selling point for me in a man.

Both parties in a relationship have the same access to the cord that connects you two.

Lets be clear about one thing about these cords: These cords run between you and other people ALL THE TIME.

The deeper and more intimate the relationship the stronger/bigger the cords is. The less depth to the relationship the less the cord is there. Cords are created between you and your family members, friends, work mates, team mates, the barista you received coffee from today, the beggar on the street… Absolutely everyone!

connectingsoulsCords are part of a natural process of life that allows us to develop deeper connections with those we desire to and to stay tuned into those people. The people that after several months of not talking to we want to call up and say “Hey” or the people that pop into our heads. “I needed to call George because I felt like something was wrong. It turns out that he had a terrible fall the other day and just got out of the hospital.”

Healthy cords allow us to feel connected and supported within the web of people that we know. We are in a constant state of giving and taking energetically. The cords allow the energy we need to come to us and the energy others need to be gifted to them in this constant flux.

Unhealthy cords create unhealthy tendencies in relationships. Some examples of these behaviours are the following:

  • an unhealthy obsession will occur
  • one person inside the relationship will be constantly fatigued (or if a person has several cords connecting in unhealthy ways then that person might be constantly tired)
  • a codependent relationship may occur
  • or a person will be almost addicted to another person.

It is because of the cord that is developed on a date that a sensitivity to another person is developed. The person at the other end of the cord can literally feel what you are putting out there. Are you putting out a desperate vibe? Are you putting out a i-liked-him-had-a-great-night-will-trust-that-he-calls-me-goes-about-my-day-vibe?

Whichever vibe you are feeding is what he will feel through the cord that connects the both of you.

And he will match his response to that vibe.

Just as you will match your response to his vibe.

In my experience, this is how unhealthy people enter into a relationship with other unhealthy people while healthy people attract healthy people.

If the frequency you put off when you are away from that person matches their blueprint (the way that perceive and function in relationships) that person will generally pursue the relationship.

An Example

I go on a date with a man and we match well. I feel really connected to him, and I feel the night has gone amazing. We may have even shared a kiss! When he drops me off, he says, “I’ll call you tomorrow.” I say, “Please do.” with a grin, and leave on a high.

If I am in an unhealthy state of mind I might be obsessively checking my phone, allowing whether or not he calls me to affect my mood. I may obsess for a few days before taking action and doing something about it. Perhaps I have been thinking about him non-stop. I may not be focused on what I am doing because I am so focused on him. Maybe even stop doing what I need to do because this has affected me so much.

The man feels this when he thinks about me. That’s all he has to do in order to tune into my energy. The more aware he is the more conscious information he will receive, however, he will still receive information in the subtle realms and respond appropriately for his blueprint.

If he is operating a healthy state of mind most likely in that extreme scenario he would not be interested in pursuing the relationship further. If he is in an unhealthy state of mind he would probably pursue the relationship as long as he felt that it could match the blueprint he holds for his relationships.

cordsIf I am in a healthy state of mind the next day then I would find myself not obsessing, but curious and open. I would be doing what I need to do with the glow of the possibility of new love. I would have patience to let it grow as it will grow and to nurture it into something.

There is a lack of attachment that the unhealthy state of mind often has – an attachment to fulfilling oneself in some way instead of allowing the relationship to be the cherry on to of an already fulfilling life.

A man operating from an unhealthy state of mind might pursue me but find himself quickly rejected due to the blueprint of what I perceive a healthy relationship. A man operating from a healthy state of mind might pursue me and we might find that even if the relationship doesn’t continue as lovers that we can be in relationship to each other in healthy ways.

That, to me, is the energetic dance of dating.

It’s something to think about and be aware of, but not something obsess over. It’s something to witness inside of yourself and consciously make choices about what kind of frequency you put out to increase the probability of what you desire coming true.

Think beyond just relationships with lovers. This is a micro view of a macro. This is a pattern that holds true for all areas of life. The frequency you put out will attract that in the subtle realms.

And its all learning.

Stay tuned for next weeks post on healthy ways to manage your cords.