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Managing Your Cords | Energetic Cord Management

cut-energy-cordsIf you read last weeks post, you were introduced to cords in a really great way. If you haven’t read it, read it first and then come back here because I don’t want to repeat myself! 🙂

Signs You Need to Clear Your Cords

Sometimes we have too many cords surrounding our energy bodies. Or sometimes we have one really big cord that drains us. Sometimes we are (unconsciously) draining others. Here are some signs that it might be a good idea for you to clear your cords:

  • You are constantly feeling fatigued no matter what you do
  • You are in relationships that take a lot of energy – you feel drained after encounters with certain people
  • You are obsessive about a person
  • You cannot stop thinking about a person no matter how hard you try
  • You find it a challenge to attract new people into your life on a consistent basis
  • You can’t seem to let go or get over someone (or an experience with someone)
  • You are overly influenced by another person

Chances are you need to cut your cords if:

  • You have recently experienced a painful break-up
  • You are in one or more unhealthy relationships you would like to shift

Benefits of Cutting/Clearing Your Cords

Cutting or clearing your cords are not the same thing as removing people from your life. You may feel you need to do that after you clear your cords in or order to remain a healthy person yourself. The cutting and clearing of cords can have some potent benefits:

  • You gain more clarity, insight, and awareness on the relationship
  • You become more objective in the relationship
  • If you have given away your power you take it back
  • And vice versa, if you have taken anyone’s power you give it back
  • You have the opportunity to become more yourself because other people aren’t tying up your energy
  • You have more energy
  • You will feel lighter
  • You will be less obsessive and focus more on your own stuff instead of others stuff.
  • It will be easier to release unwanted relationships
  • You will feel more yourself afterwards

How to Cut or Clear Your Cords

Most New Age Websites you will go to will talk about cutting your cords. I also talk about clearing your cords. There is a subtle difference between the two. I experience it like this: You cut your cords for those people that you no longer desire an energy exchange with. You clear your cords for those are in your life in an unhealthy way to create balance and a healthy way of being.

All relationships take work, and this to me, is an important aspect of being in relationship with another. Just as much as we need to take care the mental, emotional and physical aspects, we need to take care of the energetic aspects of our relationships.

Its really easy to clear or cut your cords. There are two ways I have used. Try it out before you give up – these are surprisingly easy and effective methods!

cord_cutting_ropeFirst Process – Clearing General Cords

1. Relax your body and your mind. Take a few moments to get comfortable and pay attention to your breath.
2. Scan your body to see where there is tension and pain. Where is it relaxed? Mentally take note.
3. Call in any Guides/Spirits/Beings you work with if you work with any. If you don’t work with any skip to the next step.
4. Set the intention that you are going to cut and clear your cords.
5. Ask to see (even if you didn’t call anyone in, ask yourself/subconscious/intuition to see) your cords.
6. Take a moment to feel and experience your body and its cords. See it, feel it, know it. Whatever your sensory perception is, it is true for you.
7. Ask that the cords that aren’t serving yourself or others in unconditional love are cleared and released (use any wording here that feels good for you). See/feel/know them falling away. Let them fall away.
8. Continue step 7 until you feel that all you can do for the moment is complete.
9. Thank yourself and any Beings you may have called in for their loving support.
10. Come back from the meditation gently and slowly.

Second Process – Cutting Cords With Intention

Steps 1 to 5 are the same as the first process.

1. Relax your body and your mind. Take a few moments to get comfortable and pay attention to your breath.
2. Scan your body to see where there is tension and pain. Where is it relaxed? Mentally take note.
3. Call in any Guides/Spirits/Beings you work with if you work with any. If you don’t work with any skip to the next step.
4. Set the intention that you are going to cut the cord to a specific individual.
5. Ask to see (even if you didn’t call anyone in, ask yourself/subconscious/intuition to see) the cord that connects you.
6. Take a moment to feel and experience your body the cord. See it, feel it, know it. Whatever your sensory perception is, it is true for you. What is going on with that cord? How is the energy flowing?
7. Visualize scissors or another sharp item and see it cut the cord. You may have to try several times, you may have to visualize light burning through it, softening it. Do what you need to do to cut that cord.
8. When the cord is complete put the cord connected to you back inside of you, and return the other part of the cord to the individual.
9. Make sure you give back the cord in the previous step before moving forward. This step ensures that the cords are permanently cut. Unless you choose to create the cord again.
10. Thank yourself and any Beings you may have called in for their loving support.
11. Come back from the meditation gently and slowly.

If you are having trouble with the process and would like help please email me.

Remember that the person you cut the cords to will feel it in the subtle realms. The more sensitive they are the more they will consciously feel it and react. Most people in my experience don’t really react, however, I have had a sensitive ex-boyfriend who definitely felt it. Afterwards there was a long redefinition of our relationship and how we relate to each other.

I cleared my cords with him particularly and cut the cords several times over in various ways. The more Will you bring to the practise the stronger it is. Each time brought further clarification for me about the different dynamics and unconscious patterns within the relationship.

Use these tools as often as you feel you need to. With practice it gets easier, and you will change the practices to match the way you perceive and work with energy. This is an invaluable skill in your journey of Energy Management.

Crooked Thinking and Limiting Beliefs Part 2

Last weeks blog post became so long I had to divide it into two! This post focuses more on my learning, the reminders that I received during the workshop and some of my thoughts that occurred to me.

One of the main reminders I received in the workshop is that my choice of words is very important and do matter. A lot of re-framing reminds me of non-violent communication (NVC) because it has so much to do with the choice of words that we use when talking to ourselves. Our word choices easily spill out to our communications with other people, but if we focus on changing the words we use with others it will change how we think and vice versa.

It seems much more powerful to focus on, or at least be aware of, both at once. I’m curious if thought rehabilitation would be faster that way?

The following questions began to surface in my mind: How conscious have I been the last couple weeks? How aware have am I right now? Am I in the present moment?

And sadly, I have to say, that these last couple weeks being in the present moment and consciously aware of what I am doing have not been on the top of my priority list. I’ve felt like I’m floating around for the majority of the time. In that moment I renewed my commitment to practicing self-awareness and bringing myself back to the present moment.

Nobody can make me feel anything. The phrase “He made me mad.” is false because he didn’t make me mad. I feel mad when he does that because… Most likely the because is due to a link of an experience from the past. It is my choice to acknowledge the feelings that come up and how I deal with them.

As soon as I say “He made me mad” I’ve given my power away to him. In order for me to not give away my power to anyone else I need to take full responsibility for how I feel and thereby how I act. I never have to act angry if I choose not to act angry. Instead I can acknowledge the feeling and the underlying emotion and choose a desired option such as releasing my anger in a healthy way.

Feelings and emotions are two different things. Feelings are fleeting and can change in an instant. Emotions tend to stay with us and are much more difficult to change. I studied with a psychologist once who liked to state that all feelings come from one of four base emotions: pain, love, fear, joy.

When thinking about negative and positive thoughts, I often see that there are two parts of me. Each part is a plant. One plant is the positive and the other plant is negative. I have a choice of which one I will water and give food to. Thinking negative thoughts will help the negative plant and part of me to grow. But if I think positive thoughts, and change my negative thoughts to positive ones my positive side and plant grows strong. In the meantime the negative side withers and shrinks. The part of me that I pay most attention to will eventually take on a life of its own, making it easier to think in a particular way until its natural.

After contemplating the workshop material for a few days, I’ve come to conclude that I function under the core belief that I am flawed. Looking at myself completely honestly I have many of the thought patterns and behaviors listed.

I’ve put on my war gear and superhero cape and am proud to report that I’m slowly but surely winning the battle of minds.

The picture to the side with the saying “It is easier to build up a child than to repair a man” has been getting passed around on my Facebook. I have to agree: Repairing myself is a lot of work. It takes a lot of time, energy, awareness and constant alertness. It can be serious. A lot is at stake, as in most wars.

I like to make it playful and dramatic because it makes things so much more fun.

In my mind’s eye I put on my fighting gear, which changes according to the activity and my mood . Then I see my weapons – skills, life experience, tools – being brandished and I get ready for battle. I sit down in lotus pose even when I’m in a black latex suit with cats ears on my head like  Cat Woman. Perhaps I’ll be Storm another day. Or maybe a ninja. Sometimes I’m just me.

I’m waiting to catch the thought, waiting for the moment to come where I can best act…

And when that moment comes I pounce on it! I use all the skills, tools and life experience I’ve accumulated to counteract the thought.

Often I miss the thought, that sweet moment when I know I’ve changed this one. The times that I catch them are quickly increasing in frequency, and my superhero self is getting much more skilled. Slowly I am learning the ways that thought patterns like to disguise themselves.

For me, changing my thoughts changes my life. Changing a thought can easily and effortlessly change my entire world; it can create a new world. It can bring things into my life, help me expand what I see and experience, and create more knowing and wisdom. It allows me to know my soul a bit more and allow my Highest Service to come through.

I believe that complete and true freedom comes from ones thoughts. It comes when we no longer have anyone else’s programming (intended or not) running through us even at the subconscious level. It comes when we are able to have all areas in our lives run congruent, in time with each other, in full alignment with all of ourselves.

All of us can attain this freedom, and that we all can change the thoughts that we have if we choose to do so. Yes, it is hard work that ceaselessly needs to be done, but the layers and thoughts do change. That’s how you know you’ve graduated from one grade to the next.

How many grades are there?

I don’t know.

That is why I believe this workshop is so important. What do you think? Thoughts? Do you have moments that you see yourself as a superhero? When? What is complete and true freedom to you?