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Crystal Forecast May 25th – 31st | Green Tourmaline “Enlightenment”

May 25^th – 31st

Lifting the veils of illusion to come into more and deeper truth and authenticity is Green Tourmaline, subtitled “Enlightenment”. This is a wonderful card to end with this heart centred month. This card tells me that there is a time for truth and that time is now. It tells me that we are travelling through the Joy of the higher heart and now going deeper into the depths of our heart.

We are on a cycle where we go every deeper and deeper into the heart until it extends to our throat and our solar plexus. We then find ourselves aligning all three of those energy centres. We find that effortlessly and with ease the root and third eye take care of themselves, opening up and finding the balancing. Our bodies start to beat again to the Mother’s heart beat.

It is the reintroduction of boundless love that we shall find ourselves shifting into the communities we desire. Changes start at home and extend outwards. They always start within even when we don’t realize it and extend outwards to the rest of the world around us.

I feel that deep truths will be looked at and many subtle shifts will occur due to that deep truth. I feel that many of us will be impressed with our own wisdom that pours forth. I feel that deep resonance will be found for ourselves in the outward expression of our lives.

Crystal Forecast May 18th – 24th | Peridot “The Bringer of Joy”

May 18^th – 24th

Peridot, “The Bringer of Joy” arrives! And indeed! That is what it feels like! It feels like this week all the concerns and worries you had are lifted away, gone with the wind, and now that you have your plan and everything else in order, you are ready to just relax and let things flow!

Enjoy the sunshine and all those things that give you joy. Make it a priority this week to experience your joy at least once a day. No less, and hopefully ten times more of that joy will come to you. And you will find the plans you set the week before are moving at a speed unprecedented as you give them your joyful thoughts and your heart peace.

This is another heart-ful week and I see romances coming together, becoming strengthened. I see celebrations happening. I see lots of sunshine. I see that there is a shift again in planetary energies leading to a light heart and dancing. Enjoy it.

Five Amazing Heart Chakra Crystals

V-day is tomorrow and this is the month of love in our Western Culture. While there is a lot of people complaining about the monetization and corporate greed, at least on my Facebook and in my friend groups, I’m actually grateful that this day has become so big.

In our Western Society we need a reminder to love sometimes. We need reminders to open our hearts bigger. We need the reminder that it is okay to love, fully, without hesitation. We need that push sometimes to really do what our heart desires, to really make known what we want.

While I don’t agree with having to spend lots of money or buying into the consumer holiday aspect of this month of love, I do appreciate those reminders. I do appreciate the mass celebration of love that happens like no other time in our culture.

Personally I feel that everyday is a day of love. Everyday is a day to learn to love better both ourselves and others. There’s a quote that I used to have on my wall, I’m pretty sure it was by Rumi, however I wasn’t able to find the full quote for you. It talks about how each moment we live we have a choice: Love or Fear. It’s up to use from which energy we respond to each moment.

That’s what I feel the mineral kingdom is constantly doing: constantly reminding us to act from love. Constantly reconnecting us to the Divine Unconditional Love within us. Constantly reminding us to open our hearts, receive our Divine Birthright of Abundance, Love and Joy.

That being said, here are my Top Five Heart Chakra Crystals!

1. Rose Quartz

This is the go-to mineral for the heart chakra because of its work with self love. I’ve spoken about it in this previous post, so I’m going to keep the words about this mineral short. Rose quartz opens up our hearts to self-love and helps us learn its okay to take care of ourselves. If we are single this Valentine’s Day why not cuddle up with your rose quartz and ask, What actions can I take today that would be from Self-Love?

It may suggest a bath with some essential oils, or going out for a delectable meal. Perhaps it will be to take yourself out on a date, or maybe it will be to allow yourself to turn off your phone for the night so you can really just be with yourself. Who knows?

2. Moonstone

Oh lovers, lovers, lovers! This is the mineral for you on this day of love! Moonstone has many legends about it being used to attract lovers and to incite the act of making love. Known as the “lovers stone”, it has been known to reconcile lovers, and to also cause lovers to fall in love. It is the mineral of intuition, femininity, and the moon. It draws forth intuitive flashes and positive emotional feelings rather than working with the logics of the mind. Read more here.

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hiddenite

3. Hiddenite or Green Spodumene

This crystal is one of my favorites to work with on the heart chakra center! It opens the heart softly and gently to heal our relationships with others from the heart. It brings feelings of joy, gratitude, and peace uplifting your moods. It allows you to move on from situations that have hurt your heart, and for forgiveness to occur.

It is especially amazing for break-ups. There is folklore that states if two lovers break up, and one lover gifts both of them a piece of hiddenite the pieces will work together to heal the wounds between each other, allowing forgiveness to occur. It doesn’t mean necessarily that they will get back together, but it does give them the opportunity to be friends or at least able to be in the same room with each other!

It is also used in fights to calm the space and to allow people to interact more from the heart center. I’ve had visions working with my piece of being in fights with family but holding the piece in my hand, allowing the vibrations to waft over all beings present to bring the fight more heart centered and expressive than ego-centered.

4. Ruby

Ruby is considered by many to be one of the most powerful minerals in the world. When I tune into it I get sense of power with a very old ancient energy with it. The energy doesn’t feel irrelevant to today’s world, but feels like we need to use it in new ways. It feels like this mineral was once used by many royals and conquerers for its energies of bringing wealth and sexuality to their lives.

In today’s world, I feel it is asking us to now use it to anchor into our bodies and selves the abundance consciousness of the planet. It asking us to use and amass wealth and prosperity in heart centered ways. It brings with it a whirlwind of healing our sexuality as well.

On top of all the metaphysical stuff, it also heals the heart and the liver physically. It is known to cleanse and clear the blood, and aid in circulation. If you want to gift yourself or someone you know with a love mineral, I would say this is it.

P.S. I feel that ruby will become more well known and used on our planet in the coming years due to its ability to work with the Ruby Ray/Ruby Red Ray. Ruby projects and connects to a very particular frequency that reconnects us to our inherent wealth and nobility.

5. Pink Andara

Okay, okay, I have fallen in love with Andaras. And mine is pink. I’ve gone through a period of a few weeks meditating with my piece on my heart chakra, and wow. I’m amazed at how much it moves and shifts my armour around my heart center. I could literally feel it grabbing the armour and dissolving it, leaving my heart center much more open.

This is a mineral that will connect you directly to your heart center dissolving all blockages to allow Divine Unconditional Love to flow right through you easily and gracefully. It will connect you Quan Yin, the Female Buddha, who is also known as the Goddess of Compassion. Your life unfolds with more ease and grace as this process occurs, bringing more opportunities and flow.

Using all of these minerals as your intuition guides you will help you with several things: You will learn to fall in love wit yourself, you will learn to let love flow and that love is the true power is this World, that all things benefit and grow from Unconditional Love but love from the ego destroys. It will become obvious to you what your heart is guiding you to do, and it will lower the amour around your heart which allows you to be more authentically you.

These stones will teach you how to truly love.

And also balance.

You will learn that the greatest act of self-love is to take care of yourself first.

Bloodstone – Truth-Teller

We welcome you

To the reign of truth

As time beats by

Bloodstone sits still

More than all ages

Old wisdom hidden

On-lookers disbelief

As they are caught distraught

In falsities, lies, illusions

Some accept this wisdom

To grow and vibrate cleaner

But others resist and attack

Truth-teller does not judge

He simply comes to let

All illusions to fly away

So all we will see

Is our Truth and Light.

Bloodstone is a powerful stone, a crystal ally if you wish. He helps to unveil an illusions you may have, or others in the vicinity of his energy. Because of this he is good to have on you when engaging in conversations you “need answers” from.

This stone is a deep green with red dots. It was said at one time that bloodstone was created during the war of the Gods and from their spilled blood formed this crystal.

This is an excellent crystal to learn and use in times when discernment is needed for any situation. He does not like to be fooled and will bring insight and wisdom to any situation you sit and about while holding him.

Bloodstone works with the heart and root connecting them with the third eye via intuition. When Bloodstone gives insight it is very heart centred and will serve the highest good of all involved, not ego.

Meditating with bloodstone daily will begin the process of integrating or dismantling the ego if you intend it to. It is highly recommended you allow the space and time you need for this process – daily meditations might not be the best for each person as dismantling the ego can bring up a lot at times.

Bloodstone loves to sit close to people in general, so it is best to keep him in a space that has more people around, say in a dish on a coffee table in the living room. He likes to adventure and explore other places so do not be surprised if he transitions to other temporary homes.

Do you have a gemstone or mineral inside your collection that you love and are curious about it? Do you wonder how best to work with it? Or what its purpose is for you? I do gemstone readings in person and by distance! Click here to find out more.

Serafina Christine is a creative free spirited cyclist and mystic who has committed to learning how to best Follow Her Bliss. She is the creator of Willows Lavender, where she specializes in readings and gemstone therapy, including gemstone elixirs.

Rhodonite – Love Actualization, Love in Action

Oh! The beauty of this crystal!

The deep pink of the heart

The crevices of black desire

The love that flows so simply

Ability to love made manifest

This is the stone for you

It is the stone for all

For who wouldn’t like to serve

By living their souls truth, talents?

One of our favourite crystals to work with!

Rhodonite is an amazing crystal to work with. As you carry it with you it begins to unveil to you what your loves to do. These are the things we do that we have no idea how valued they are. They are the things we’ve never done but love instantly once we do them. They are the things that bring us so much joy there is no where else we would rather be.

This stone can do something special: It can not only help you recognize all of the above and help reveal your passions, but it can also help you connect together in a meaningful and valuable way multiple passions. It shows you a coherent and workable way that you can live doing all that you love and still be generous.

Rhodonite strives to be generous and altruistic By living and using your talents you become such a gift for the world. And it reminds you that unexpected and unconditional generosity is the greatest gift you can give. By unconditional we don’t mean that you give and give and give, for you must give only as much as you can without creating an imbalance and true lack in your life. by unconditional we refer to the simple act of forgotten or lost of giving without any expectations or strange ideas. A gift from the heart. This can inspire and spark so much in the receiver!

This is the stone that teaches you and shows you how your love, your passions, and your bright spark of life can be such a blessing and a catalyst that inspires those around you to become their bright sparks too.

The world is ready for all of humanity to live by their souls. So lets help each other discover and live their souls. Lets help each other create world where that is possible. Let us create a heart-centred world.

Let rhodonite help you first, and your light. Your heart will lead the way to this New World of Hope. Just always remember the Butterfly Effect – the smallest actions have a larger effect that you cannot even imagine. You have no true idea of the scope of change your actions create in the world around you. So when it seems like you are not enough hold on to Rhodonite and Rhodocroscite together. Let their love fill you with self-love and understanding.

Sunstone – The Lovers Heart (Solstice Stone)

This stone is one of masculine light. It shows and helps develop the strength and ability to let ones light shine brightly without worrying about others. This stone feels almost harsh when placed beside it’s oft thought of counterpart moonstone. And indeed they are partners in a lot of ways; however, it is not recommended that these stones are worked with together until one is fairly aware and knowledgeable in the masculine and feminine energies. Then we say to experience a full balance meditate with sunstone in the left hand and moonstone in the right hand. A powerful meditation.

This is a stone of inner strength and balance. As the feminine likes a flow this stone likes to help the masculine stay strong. For the user this stone will allow creativity, ideas, and ingenuity flow without losing direction, focus or interval guidance.

We call this stone the lovers’ heart because it represents it so perfectly in how this stone helps humanity in general. A lover’s heart is soft, forgiving, and full of excitement and acceptance. It fills us with a sense of peace, openness and adventure. A lover’s heart is also very strong, very bright, and knows what it wants. It may experience fears, but courage comes almost too easily to the lovers’ heart as does forgiveness it seems in many cases. All of these attributes sunstone helps to surface because those in love have always done great things. Those in love have bright fires that come alive. With or without a lover these states of being can come forth and sunstone will always help with that.

Sunstone also helps one know the timing of when to end begin something. This stone doesn’t like to hang out past the expiry date, nor does it like to begin too early. It likes, and will help all who work with him, to work in time with all the energies that surround you with a confident grace of inner knowing.

Keywords: Sunstone, masculine, moonstone, meditation, lover’s hearts, heart, energy, endings, beginnings, leadership, condfidence.

Chakra: Solar Plexus

Astrological Sign: Leo

This is a wonderful stone that brings out your light. With its red-yellow phosphorescent color it resembles labordorite and moonstone, but instead of looking inside, it promotes you to shine your light – bring what’s inside of you into the world.

This is a stone commonly associated with leadership as this stone values freedom, empowerment, and individuality. Sunstone harmonizes the world, and helps create a sense of worthiness, increasing self-esteem and self-confidence along the way. It offers protection and draws wealth while bringing optimism in all aspects to the user.

Sunstone helps one to become emotionally capable to take care of oneself instead of depending on others, and will help one to learn to nurture both others and oneself. It empowers the user by removing co-dependency and the tendency to procrastinate.

It is believed to powerfully bring abundance, good fortune, prosperity and protection to the user. Sunstone is believed to reinvigorate one’s health and strength. It’s commonly used now a-days to alleviate depression, seasonal affective disorder, anxiety and stress. Sunstone energizes and empowers one’s spirit, and brightens the soul.

Sunstone is often used in grids to help relieve aches, pain, cartilage problems, rheumatism, cramps, fevers, and other similar conditions.

Sunstone is an excellent stone to use to banish fears, nightmares, phobias, inhibitions and feelings of unworthiness. It has also been used to remove any unwanted or lingering energies.

Sunstone is associated with the Sun God Helios in Ancient Greece, and used to be placed on drinking vessels in order to prevent poisoning. It is the stone of Ra, the Egyptian God of the Sun.

Sunstone has been used in the past by the Vikings to actually navigate by the position of the sun. True sunstone refracts light, which makes it possible to locate the sun in fog, cloudy days and storms. Sunstone has also been said to glow when contact is made with Spirit Guides, commonly being placed in the center of the medicine wheel by Native American Medicine Men.

This particular stone has been oft used in solstice celebrations and gatherings. I feel, this is not fact, simply what I feel from my channelling and research that if you celebrate Solstice it would be highly beneficial for you to place a piece of sunstone on your alter, and at some point take time to connect with the stone by sitting with it in meditation on the Solstice. All pieces of true sunstone (not aventurine or golden sunstone but true sunstone) contain within them a connection to the part of human consciousness that has been celebrating Solstice’s past, present and future. Meditation during the Solstice will automatically draw forth all of this knowledge, and it will be shared when used in ritual, bringing to the meditator exactly what they need to receive from the reserves of old wisdom.

Try meditating with Sunstone and let me know what happens. 🙂

Key Sources

http://www.controverscial.com/Sunstone.htm

http://www.crystalvaults.com/pages/crystal_encyclopedia/sunstone.php

Moldavite – The Green Healer

This stone is amazing and powerful and a must get for all who work deeply or intensely on themselves and others. This meteorite piece was sent very particularly and in a very planned way to help all beings on the planet. It would be of no surprise if all of humanity ended up working with a piece at some point or another.

This stone is especially meant for those on what the majority of humans would call ‘the healing journey’. On our terms it is the journey of rediscovering the self. This stone works not only with the energies that are most present in the moment but also with the future and the past. The muli-dimensional qualities of this stone allow it to gently, powerfully and intensely dig into the subconscious of the person its bonded to and help release whatever comes up.

This stone doesn’t play games.

Moldavite is a serious stone intended to get deep and dirty fast. The stone will bond with any human it chooses in two weeks to a months time. During that time expect to carry it close, have intriguing dreams and not want to part with it. It loves to work in the dream world.

One piece of lore before we go: Different shapes of the stone will cause it to be used for others in particular ways. Your piece of moldavite can be placed on or used on another person after its bonded to you and will only bond with that person when your work with it is done. Moldavite is happy to be used in healing sessions with others, and if it is shaped in a wing or the bottom of a broom, it can be used to “sweep” energy; if its curved it can be used to “scoop” energy. Sometimes you will sense its mischievous spunky faye energy too.

Keywords: Healer, heart, moldavite, bond, healing, meteorite, the healing journey, rediscovery.

Chakra: Heart, Crown, All

Astrological Sign: None

Moldavite is the only extraterrestrial gemstone believed to have arrived only once 15 million years ago in a meteorite shower. It is found mainly in the Moldau Valley in the Czech Republic, where there is said to be 275 tons of Moldavite on the planet, but the commercial mining of this gemstone, a variety of tektite, will be stopped within the next ten years because there will be no more left on the planet.

This stone seems to have always been a very precious stone for humanity. They’ve been worn as amulets for good fortune and fertility. They’ve been gifts for nobility, including Queen Elizabeth II and Pope John Paul II. There are legends that state the Holy Grail was made of moldavite, which was believed to have fallen from the sky out of the crown of Lucifer during the war between God and Satan.

Moldavite is considered a powerful growth crystal centered in the heart space. It is a stone commonly used for spiritual awakening, transformation, and entering into the cosmic consciousness. When working with moldavite it creates a protective energy field around you, and helps you to detach from anything unhealthy.

This stone works deeply in the dream and vision states of consciousness. Placing it on your third eye will create vivid dreams.

Moldavite can be used to illuminate the cause or source of a physical dis-ease or imbalance and then support the user through the healing process. This stone is known for its ability to rejuvenate the physical body by slowing down the ageing process, helping memory retention, and protecting against mental degeneration.

This stone tends to trigger memories and awakenings in people when they touch the ones they feel called to work with. It is usually intense, and will provide the wearer with memories of their past lives, most often of the Stars they’ve come from. It is said that moldavite calls all the Children of the Stars to work together and accelerate their growth.

It will help release anything that is holding the person back in any way, and can inspire creativity and passion. It allows the heart and the mind to come into union, and will bring up to the surface all that the user most needs to recognize, honour, integrate and release.

It is recommended when working with this stone to meditate with it daily, and wear it to have its maximum effect, however, also use other stones such as black tourmaline, smoky quartz, hematite, and copper to keep you grounded. To complete the process that moldavite allows and assists in unfolding it is of supreme important that users and wearers of this stone stay grounded.

Important: Do not cleanse in salt water. The salt deteriorates moldavite.

Key Sources:

http://www.crystalvaults.com/pages/crystal_encyclopedia/moldavite.php

http://divinecrystals.com.au/page.html?chapter=5&id=24

Calcite – Lover of the Two Hearts

Optical Calcite

Calcite is a beautiful and lovely stone that has always worked with both of the human hearts. What we mean by this is that each one of you has a soul heart and a human heart. The human heart we speak of is both your physical and emotional heart for these two are so entwined with each other it is difficult to make a change in one and not the other. The soul heart we speak of consists of all the inner knowing, the intuition, the inner feelings of a purpose and mission, the drive to fulfil that purpose. That all comes from the souls heart and it is the souls heart that sees the big picture while the human heart that can get tied down, boxed in if you will.

Calcite loves both of these hearts seeing them as two sides of the same coin. He helps influence people’s thinking to a more neutral and open way reducing judgements on value or good or bad. He helps people to see the even rhythm of the world, the big picture, the steady beat that always pulses no matter what happens around us and that it is in our connection to this earth’s heartbeat that keeps us steady, grounded, centered.

Calcite brings together the human and souls hearts and helps them align with each other so there is no separation between their desires, wants and needs. This causes a great increase in awareness once the alignment happens. Before that calcite will help release all the things not serving the hears in a slow grounded way. To instil this process into your energetic being calcite must be worn for two weeks daily as much as possible, or the elixir drunk/used daily for one month.

Calcite is a wonderful stone for helping your being come into one.

Keywords: Calcite, heart, the big picture, grounding, heartbeat, Earth, alignment, soul, purpose, mission, love.

Chakra: Clear calcite resonates with all the chakras, while all the coloured pieces resonate with the matching coloured chakra.

There are several varieties of calcite based on color including two clear varieties – one clear calcite and the other is optical calcite. Optical calcite is an interesting variety that is commonly used in magic tricks, and it is said that it creates a dual image when looking at something through the stone because it releases two rays of light. (cool eh?)

Calcite and Aragonite can sometimes be confused for each other since they can look very similar. They actually have different chemical structures though.

Metaphysical

Clear and white calcite are the most common varieties and are found all over the world. Calcite is said to provide clarity and help one to know when another is hiding something.

Calcite expands, increases, amplifies energy which makes it an excellent stone for doing any type of healing work, while reducing fear and stress. It is an excellent stone for clearing any stored energies in the body or energy system that no longer serve a helpful purpose and can clear all levels.

This stone will increase learning, creativity and imagination as well as prosperity. It helps increase intuition, and wisdom.

Calcite is a grounded and centered stone and imparts these qualities to the user or wearer.

While it is a strong healing stone it is gentle, and is said to be “The Stone of the Mind” as it tends to help release old patterns and belief system, and help during mental changes or life transitions.

Physical

Calcite is noted for helping to increase physical strength, back pain, detoxifying, emotional and mental conditions.

It can purify the energies of spaces as well as bodies, and to promote a peaceful atmosphere wherever it sits.

Important: Calcite does dissolve in water; I recommend another way to clear the stone. It is a soft stone that can easily chip or break.

Random

Experiments with Calcite have been done to use the stone for a cloak of invisibility!

Key Sources

http://www.thatcrystalsite.com/guide/properties-glossary.php?init=c

http://www.crystalsandjewelry.com/metaphysical_healing/stoneinfo/calcite.html

Soul Family Q&A Part 2

More questions have come up; here are the channelled responses. 🙂

Can you have more than one soul family in different parts of the globe?

Yes you can. You may be “adopted” into another one at a given point if your soul and another soul is willing and able to bond deep enough to create the soul family connection. This usually takes a great deal of work in the relationship with a true commitment to each other. The soul being “adopted” will be accepted once that bond is complete with one or more soul in the ‘new’ family in a positive way that benefits all involved in the process and family. IF that will not happen the soul will not join that family and will be guided away from that family when the time is best for both parties. Just because you aren’t part of a soul family you desire at this time doesn’t mean you can’t play with them.

What are the benefits of finding your soul family?

The benefits of finding your soul family are very similar to finding your home:

A place that is completely safe for you. People in your family feel and are so safe for you that you can fully relax into yourself and your Being. It is from this sense of safety and relaxation that a growth spurt like no other can happen on all levels of learning for many members at once.
Relaxation into your Being with support from all members of your family at the soul level. All souls are in the process of learning and growth. All family members will love you, desire to protect and love you as best they can in this moment. They will support you and your choices fully as long as it is helping you become your Truth.
Soul families help heal each other on all levels naturally and effortlessly. There is no mistake here – not everything in a soul family is peace and harmony, as we’ve said before. There will be explosions. There must be in this current human existence the two poles of polarity until these words are out of date. Soul families expediate the growth of each other on all levels because they are all working towards the same thing in different ways. combining their skills together will bring up a powerful force of collective thinking and power. Connecting together they will change what they desire to change. The connection of their hearts is much stronger than their mind.
Love. A soul family has so much love and forgiveness for each member it turns unconditional naturally as the members evolve. This love sustains and feeds the members and creates a strength of connection like no other.
Physically, people will notice less stress, anxiety, and depression in their lives once connected firmly with several soul family members. Thoughts brighten automatically as the world takes on a different hue. The world becomes less of a place to be feared and more a place to be loved.

~ Community Happens ~

Can members of one soul family be dispersed around different parts of the globe?

Yes, very easily it can be so. It’s all decided beforehand if they desire or if it best suits their needs to travel to each other, when and where to meet, how and so on. This is not to say that all things are set. What is set is that A will meet B. If A and B don’t meet at Y there is also Z, D, W, U, R, C, L, and all other paths that will lead to A meeting B for a specific purpose. Life is fluid, all about choices, nothing is set in stone like you say for it is all always changing flow. ~The Only Constant is Change ~

What contributes to the likelihood or unlikelihood of finding ones soul family in this lifetime?

Contributes to the likelihood:

Personal work and growth. This when done sincerely on all levels will naturally open your heart and let your light shine, which is one of the easiest and effective ways for finding your soul family.
Your ‘karma’. We use karma because it is a word common to most people though it is not exactly the correct term to use. Some people are born with a path that will be ‘easier’ to find soul family. For example, some people will be born directly in their soul family and others won’t be. What determines this are a numerous list of reasons that are neither here or there at this time in this conversation. This is what we term ‘karma’ in this instance. This would be things such as what the soul incarnating desires to learn or experience, a past experience determining what the soul does, what the ‘future’ appears to be, and so on.
Choices. Your choices will affect everything. The more responsibility you take that is healthy and makes sense the easier you will find your soul family in this lifetime.

Decreased likelihood:

A closed heart. You close your heart and hide behind your masks of fear and you make it more difficult to be seen at your essence. Your essence is your light and connects you to other members.

Things that won’t affect it:

Your childhood. How you grew up. It’s all choices, learning and growth. It’s all up to you where you go, act, speak, and think, as much as it may seem otherwise at times. Simply love yourself.
Your past, as far back as it goes. You are here, in the present. See choices.

How can one tell the difference between a person who is soul family and a person carrying a major karmic debt?

Ah, that is and can be a challenge. in this case it is time to let go of the mind, attachments and all else in the relationship. It is time to be honest with your feelings and clearly state what your question is and let your heart answer. This is a time of space when this question comes up for many people.

Some more concrete signs may come by asking the following questions of yourself:

How do I feel when I’m around so and so?
When I connect to their essence how safe do I feel with them? How relaxed?
Do they feel like home to me?
Does my heart open or close around them, with their essence?
Are we working towards a similar vision?
Do we have similar hopes, dreams, desires?

Remember that soul families can be small or large with many layers and extensions in them. You may have a large family but only feel drawn to be close to a few. That’s okay. You may also feel drawn to be close to many. That’s okay. If your family is ‘small’ you may feel drawn to connect with more than one family. That’s okay.

The Merry-Go-Round of Self-Respect and Selfishness

This week was chalk full (where did that saying come from?) of stuff coming up for me. All of it I’ve looked at before and delved into it, but this time I knew it wasn’t a reminder. It was an invitation to go deeper, go through another layer, take another ride on the Merry Go Round.

The horses that I would ride on my beautiful red with gold gild carousel would be called Selfishness and Self-Respect. If I could give my love to both horses at the same time I would, however, I can only fully focus on one at a time. Thus I will do so:

Self-Respect

The class I’m in right now focuses on helping women gain employment skills and increase self-confidence and self-esteem. A common theme became evident in a classroom conversation when the teachers were out of class: All of us had met and dated men that did not respect women.

Many of us agreed that there definitely are men out there that respect women. Just how do we meet one?

I explained what we had noticed and put the following question to one of my good friends and sometimes mentor. “Why is it that we all seem to be experiencing men who don’t respect women?”

Her response was a question: “How many of the women in your group respect themselves?”

Thinking about it, not many of us do. We are in the process of learning to respect ourselves. It shows through the significant differences that have emerged among all the women from our first day to now from the way we act, speak, and are taking care of ourselves.

On the flip side, how can I expect others to respect me if I don’t respect myself?

I began evaluating my life. How am I not respecting myself? What does it look like to respect myself? How would I define respect?

Here are some of the things that came to mind for me:

Boundaries. Trusting myself. Following my heart and my intuition. Giving myself what I need: space to contemplate and process, silence. Taking care of myself first.

What would it look like to respect myself? In all honesty, I’m not sure. I imagine I would feel empowered and strong. Guarding my boundaries would be second nature. I would know how I am feeling and how to respectfully state it. My voice would be used appropriately and be heard.

How am I not respecting myself? Boundaries are huge for me and learning what it is that I am feeling.

Its so important that to know what I am emotionally feeling. Often times I need a while to identify and process what I feel. As much as I would like to rush this process I need to allow it to flow. This will make my life easier, and when I am in relationships I will be able to better handle myself. It will become clearer to me why I am making the choices I choose.

Following my heart and intuition I feel I’m doing okay on. It is usually easier for me to follow my intuition but it gets cloudy when I don’t have the space that I need to allow my heart and intuition to speak.

Selfishness

It seems that we are programmed in Western Society to believe that taking care of ourselves first is selfish, and that selfishness is bad bad bad! I believe this to be a faulty thought pattern. As a healer I often hear, witness and fall victim to the thought that I must be selfless and therefore all that I possibly can to others. This is not true.

It came to my awareness last year that taking care of myself leads to me taking even better care of others. It made it okay for me to do what I need to do and not drop everything I was doing for other people. It was okay to ensure that I had a bit of time for myself each day.

I have noticed that still to this day I will allow other people to have more presence in my life than what I would personally like. For me one of the biggest acts of selfishness is taking myself away from others in time and in presence. This is also one of the healthiest things that I can do for myself.

Selfishness is a behavior that is trained out of us though that can benefit many. It allows us to clarify what we desire and want. It allows us to create and to be. It allows us to know ourselves.

Selfishness is not bad when it is not in the egotistical extreme. It is a good thing in many cases. We are living on this planet for ourselves, not for others. Yes, we may help others a long our way which is an experience that can create sensations of goodness, but ultimately our life needs to be lived for us. If we let others rule our life will we truly find happiness, contentment or joy?

Is it selfish that as a healer I will reschedule a session with a client if I do not feel that I can be fully present? A year ago I wouldn’t have, but now it is simply that I cannot give them a quality session when I am in a poor emotional, mental or physical state. This action takes care of myself and provides my client a better quality service.

As much as I have grown in this regard I still take better care of other people than I do myself.

Often I treat people in my life how I want to be treated, however I don’t treat myself nearly as well. Rarely do I spoil myself in ways that make my soul sing. It is easy for my boundaries to become mucky and my voice go unheard. Often experiences of silence that soothe my soul more than anything else disappear. Space that I require to process and contemplate I choose to relinquish because I want to spend time with others.

I love them more than I love me it seems.

Taking care of myself will automatically create self-respect and trust.

By being “selfish” I know that no matter what is happening in my life I will consistently take care of myself. Therefore I can trust that my needs are being met. Self-respect will grow.

The act of sacrificing a part of me because its “right” or because it will help someone no longer exists. I will stay whole, and I will stay me.

My horses seem to be brother and sister. Perhaps they are the beautiful chestnut horses that pull the carriage on my Merry Go Round. When I work with one the other becomes stronger, and vice versa. I love that they are so inter-related!

What do you think self-respect is? Thoughts on selfishness?

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