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When Your Angry Grab These Crystals!

Crystals to Help You Work with Anger

Anger is a complicated emotion in my experience. For a long time I really feared it, and I still do fear anger in others. My first desire when I experience anger in myself or others is to run for the hills until the storm passes. But that is not the best way to deal with anger. It must be experienced and respected for what it is. It is like any other emotion that comes and goes but for some reason is less accepted than other strong emotions humans experience in our day to day lives – happiness, sadness, depression, judgement.

This leaves many of us in an odd position of having anger and not knowing how to experience, release or express it in a healthy and positive way. Instead, many of us will bottle down the anger to explode at a later date. Or we will hide it carefully, deeply within us, carefully placing layers and layers on top of the feelings. Then there are those that let the anger flow right through them terrifying the rest of us!

Working with Fire

I have used one of the most fiery stones to help me understand and experience anger in a positive way: Carnelian. Carnelian is a deep, passionate, strong stone that will bring your anger to the forefront so that you can experience it. It moves your anger so you can see it and know yourself at a deeper level. Carnelian and I worked together closely for my journey of releasing and learning about the anger I experience in my life. It gave me a courage I didn’t feel that I had, and soothed my fears around experiencing this emotion. It let me go deep and know that I wasn’t going to get lost in it.

Overwhelming Feelings

I remember when I was working through the deeply bottled anger I had collected throughout my life. I suddenly was experiencing bursts that would go through my whole body. My adrenaline would be activated, heat waves and tremors would shake my body, I could get so lost in how it felt that I could not speak it was such an overwhelming experience for me. And it often would come out of nowhere at the most random of times. Once I got used to it – I felt like a fireball for a few months becoming randomly angry at the smallest things – I learned how to experience anger with wisdom.

By this I mean I learned how to utilize it for what anger is good for – standing up for yourself. Making sure you and another person know when something has gone too far. Giving you strength and courage to stand up for what is right for not just yourself but others. I knew I had learned this when I got into a fight with an ex boyfriend of mine. We were having an argument on the phone when he said something that just made me furious. Beyond furious. I didn’t say a word. I hung up on him and hopped on my bike. He lived a ten minute bike ride away and I arrived still boiling. He had tried calling several times and I ignored all of them.

Transmuting the Anger

Sugilite and Amethyst were other major minerals I used to help me in my process. Both of these crystals are noted as transmuters. What’s interesting is that Amethyst is resonant to and carries the Violet Flame of St. Germain. This is a major purifier of old and new energies that no longer serve us. It releases patterns we no longer need to keep replaying. Amethyst will help us find new ways of experiencing things and help establish new patterns within our life.

Sugilite is noted as a mineral that works directly with transmuting rage and anger. It is also noted, and I used it for this aspect, to work with the inner child. It gives an ease of access to the inner child and there were often times when my journey working specifically with anger that I would feel my inner child, and witness my inner child either screaming with rage or running away as fast as she could. My work with this mineral allowed me to tap into this aspect of self and even have conversations with her. It helped me to find healthy ways to shift my anger into something beautiful like artwork or writing.

Powerfully Using Anger

I very intentionally went up the stairs to his door, and knocked. He opened the door and didn’t know what to do. I stepped in, looked at him straight in the eyes, and said in a very low voice trembling with the anger I felt towards him, “If you ever say anything like that again to me, you will never see me again. You will never be allowed to speak with me. You will never know that I was in your life.”. Instead of running away from anger – both mine and his – I had gone directly into it. I had faced and experienced both mine and his.

Eliminating Anger

Howlite is an amazing mineral that works to eliminate anger and rate. How does it do this? In my experience it is a purifier which is a little bit different than a transmuter. When you are wearing Howlite it is automatically “taking” it away from you very much like an air purifier. Howlite helps you to act in alignment with your highest self no matter what is going on around or inside of you. It able to help you keep clear sight and keep your centre and base your decisions on what is best for all involved.

Graduation

Ever since then I’ve been able to experience my anger and the anger of others with less fear. I still go on my tip-toes but I can stand it. Sometimes I feel like I am a wooden post withstanding the torrents of the ocean and rain. And it feels like a good thing.

In my experience of my own anger, a lot of it had to do with traumas I’ve experienced in life and with self-forgiveness. Along with carnelian, rose quartz was a constant companion. In fact I slept with a large rose quartz ball for almost two years! Rose quartz was very important to my journey because it is a crystal that helps to forgive oneself and others. It opens up the door to fall in love with yourself. It helps you come into your own love for life. And to release anything that gets in the way because you don’t need it!

Anger will tie up and block the heart chakra. Rose quartz will unknot it and take down the walls slowly and gently. You don’t need it. All we need is love.

Meditation Suggestions

Meditate with Carnelian, Howlite or Blue Kyanite. Blue Kyanite is often used to clear blockages inside the energetic system and can be used on any chakras though it is mostly resonant with the throat and heart in my experience. You can meditate with each stone individually by just holding it in your left hand if you wish, or you can meditate with all three stones. I am wary of all three stones because it feels like a very potent and powerful combination – the only “cooling” stone in the mix is Howlite. To meditate with all three place the stones in a grid around you or on you in key spots – put one mineral on your heart and hold the other two, etc.

To meditate with Sugilite and the only child I suggest you find somewhere comfortable. Tune into the crystal by focusing on how it feels wherever your holding it. Does it pulsate? Is it cold? Does it buzz? Then ask the mineral to help you speak with your inner child. Imagine yourself taking 21 steps towards your inner child. When you arrive on the 21st step imagine her/him waiting for you. Take note of the surroundings your inner child has put him/her in and approach him/her. At this point you can have a conversation with your inner child and when you wish to leave you can take the 21 steps “out” and come back to your body.

If you do a laying of hands crystal session on yourself or another you may wish to place blue kyanite on the heart/solar plexus, rose quartz on the heart, Larimar on the throat, moss agate on your root. Moss agate and Larimar are calming agents. They slowly clean and clear and connect you deeply to nature. They help to gently heal traumas and hurting hearts.

May Crystal Forecast – Overview – Uncut Version | Power & Self-Love

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Crystal Forecast May 2014 – Overview

In this month of May I bring to you these words with the hope that they may guide your soul, calm your spirit, and gift you what you need in this moment. These words come from the greatest probability for those who will perceive these, and we call forth the words that will serve our healing and evolution as high as possible.

This past month has been a challenge and many are tired, exhausted, even when it seems that they do little. In the physical realms you may feel that you have done little, but you have done a lot in the energetic realms. I see reams and reams of energy, white light tinged with the softness of gold flowing through you and flooding the planet. We cannot help it – we are part of something bigger than us all and it cannot be denied as much as we would like to say that we are small at times. Our destinies are entwined with the Earth, and we participate in our own and her Ascension process. She is elevating to something greater, as are we.

Its why the call to the superheroes is coming so strong for us right now. Our planet, and us, need our superheros selves to come forward to help all Beings, not just themselves, ascend. And speaking of Ascending – there is nothing to do but just be. There is nothing to do but be in the present moment each day, and act from the goodness and trueness of your heart and soul. There is nothing else but for you in each moment to be a superhero. Superheros can have grand moments where the world has seen all the work that they have done, or they have a moment of stardom where they are acknowledged for what they do.

Superheroes though are built slowly (sometimes quickly) in our physical world. They are built with each small choice that elevates others into being. They are built daily. They are built because of their integrity, their love, their hope, their beliefs, their values, and their hearts. They are built because each morning they wake up and say “I’m going to be the best that I can be, moment to moment.” and they will do that throughout the day! They will do what their heart tells them is right.

It is important to note that there are other ways of being a superhero but that is the way that is most needed at this moment in time. We do not need more people seeking power or greed for the single over the love and community of the whole. We do not need more people desiring that kind of power in the false hope it will free them. That power does not provide freedom – it provides you with more responsibility than you could ever imagine.

With this power comes discipline, a whole different way of life, a whole new way of looking at things. You begin to see things and know you cannot touch them to change them despite the suffering you see. You being to know things for what they are and cannot touch them for you know if you do you will take on that – whatever it is you changed from happening. You start to see destinies and you know that you cannot change that which may occur as much as your heart might yearn to. You must cause your heart to bleed deeply in compassion in a world that tries to keep the heart closed.

It is a cross not all need to bear. It is a cross that few need to bear. If it is not yours l

et your love unfold from deep within all over yourself and keep flooding outwards to your dear ones. Let this love just erupt from you! The love that comes from being grateful to oneself, and the love that comes from taking care of oneself first and foremost. This is so important. So very, very important. After such a challenging and harsh month before this one, as the sun starts to shine bright on the coast and the clouds blow by you find out deeper what your love is for yourself.

This is the time to renew your commitments to who you are, and what you are doing. This is the time to reestablish your rhythm if you are off of it, or if you have none, establish one a new for yourself.

This is the time that you will note a huge gratitude for yourself coming as you take care of yourself in ways that are almost revolutionary to you. There is nothing to fear, but the message is this through Rhodochrosite today: A part of self-love stems from the gratitude we feel for ourselves when we make the choice to love ourselves.

The heart opens further and further and further each day. This month we will feel the stretches in the heart as I see the heart connecting and reconnecting with different chakras and parts of our energetic systems. As we shift so do our systems to match us. It is a wonderful world that we live in!

A reminder comes to us to look deeper into our love for ourselves and how that plays out. A suggestion comes from Rhodocrosite which is to write a love letter to yourself each day. The letters you write to yourself may not start out as love letters, but they will over time turn into letters of love. And then you will feel the connection between you and God/Source/Universe, whatever your terminology is for that Which Is Greater Than Creation Itself.

I feel that many of us will feel that joy of connectedness later in the month and that there will be an upliftment of the heavy energies that stream through us and around the planet at this time. It will shift and there will simple pleasure and joy for all of us.

Five Amazing Heart Chakra Crystals

V-day is tomorrow and this is the month of love in our Western Culture. While there is a lot of people complaining about the monetization and corporate greed, at least on my Facebook and in my friend groups, I’m actually grateful that this day has become so big.

In our Western Society we need a reminder to love sometimes. We need reminders to open our hearts bigger. We need the reminder that it is okay to love, fully, without hesitation. We need that push sometimes to really do what our heart desires, to really make known what we want.

While I don’t agree with having to spend lots of money or buying into the consumer holiday aspect of this month of love, I do appreciate those reminders. I do appreciate the mass celebration of love that happens like no other time in our culture.

Personally I feel that everyday is a day of love. Everyday is a day to learn to love better both ourselves and others. There’s a quote that I used to have on my wall, I’m pretty sure it was by Rumi, however I wasn’t able to find the full quote for you. It talks about how each moment we live we have a choice: Love or Fear. It’s up to use from which energy we respond to each moment.

That’s what I feel the mineral kingdom is constantly doing: constantly reminding us to act from love. Constantly reconnecting us to the Divine Unconditional Love within us. Constantly reminding us to open our hearts, receive our Divine Birthright of Abundance, Love and Joy.

That being said, here are my Top Five Heart Chakra Crystals!

1. Rose Quartz

This is the go-to mineral for the heart chakra because of its work with self love. I’ve spoken about it in this previous post, so I’m going to keep the words about this mineral short. Rose quartz opens up our hearts to self-love and helps us learn its okay to take care of ourselves. If we are single this Valentine’s Day why not cuddle up with your rose quartz and ask, What actions can I take today that would be from Self-Love?

It may suggest a bath with some essential oils, or going out for a delectable meal. Perhaps it will be to take yourself out on a date, or maybe it will be to allow yourself to turn off your phone for the night so you can really just be with yourself. Who knows?

2. Moonstone

Oh lovers, lovers, lovers! This is the mineral for you on this day of love! Moonstone has many legends about it being used to attract lovers and to incite the act of making love. Known as the “lovers stone”, it has been known to reconcile lovers, and to also cause lovers to fall in love. It is the mineral of intuition, femininity, and the moon. It draws forth intuitive flashes and positive emotional feelings rather than working with the logics of the mind. Read more here.

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3. Hiddenite or Green Spodumene

This crystal is one of my favorites to work with on the heart chakra center! It opens the heart softly and gently to heal our relationships with others from the heart. It brings feelings of joy, gratitude, and peace uplifting your moods. It allows you to move on from situations that have hurt your heart, and for forgiveness to occur.

It is especially amazing for break-ups. There is folklore that states if two lovers break up, and one lover gifts both of them a piece of hiddenite the pieces will work together to heal the wounds between each other, allowing forgiveness to occur. It doesn’t mean necessarily that they will get back together, but it does give them the opportunity to be friends or at least able to be in the same room with each other!

It is also used in fights to calm the space and to allow people to interact more from the heart center. I’ve had visions working with my piece of being in fights with family but holding the piece in my hand, allowing the vibrations to waft over all beings present to bring the fight more heart centered and expressive than ego-centered.

4. Ruby

Ruby is considered by many to be one of the most powerful minerals in the world. When I tune into it I get sense of power with a very old ancient energy with it. The energy doesn’t feel irrelevant to today’s world, but feels like we need to use it in new ways. It feels like this mineral was once used by many royals and conquerers for its energies of bringing wealth and sexuality to their lives.

In today’s world, I feel it is asking us to now use it to anchor into our bodies and selves the abundance consciousness of the planet. It asking us to use and amass wealth and prosperity in heart centered ways. It brings with it a whirlwind of healing our sexuality as well.

On top of all the metaphysical stuff, it also heals the heart and the liver physically. It is known to cleanse and clear the blood, and aid in circulation. If you want to gift yourself or someone you know with a love mineral, I would say this is it.

P.S. I feel that ruby will become more well known and used on our planet in the coming years due to its ability to work with the Ruby Ray/Ruby Red Ray. Ruby projects and connects to a very particular frequency that reconnects us to our inherent wealth and nobility.

5. Pink Andara

Okay, okay, I have fallen in love with Andaras. And mine is pink. I’ve gone through a period of a few weeks meditating with my piece on my heart chakra, and wow. I’m amazed at how much it moves and shifts my armour around my heart center. I could literally feel it grabbing the armour and dissolving it, leaving my heart center much more open.

This is a mineral that will connect you directly to your heart center dissolving all blockages to allow Divine Unconditional Love to flow right through you easily and gracefully. It will connect you Quan Yin, the Female Buddha, who is also known as the Goddess of Compassion. Your life unfolds with more ease and grace as this process occurs, bringing more opportunities and flow.

Using all of these minerals as your intuition guides you will help you with several things: You will learn to fall in love wit yourself, you will learn to let love flow and that love is the true power is this World, that all things benefit and grow from Unconditional Love but love from the ego destroys. It will become obvious to you what your heart is guiding you to do, and it will lower the amour around your heart which allows you to be more authentically you.

These stones will teach you how to truly love.

And also balance.

You will learn that the greatest act of self-love is to take care of yourself first.

Five Crystal Must-Haves (For Beginners)

Many people ask me what kind of crystal they should get for their crystal collection when they are first starting out. It always surprises me and I’m never sure what to say because where I operate from now is that each mineral is so individualized to give a generic list seems almost impossible.

The more I thought about it though, the more that I realized that I do have minerals in my collection that I view as a must-have in order for a personal crystal collection to be complete. Many of them are just so versatile that to be without would be foolish, in my opinion!

Here’s the list for those of you new to the crystal realms!

1. Citrine ~ works with the solar plexus

This is one of the minerals I probably use the most. Its one of the few minerals that all humans agree doesn’t need cleansing or clearing ever, and it will cleanse/clear your other minerals. It has a focus on abundance, clarity and harnessing your inner power as it works with the solar plexus. It cleanses and purifies the spaces that its in as well. I’ve kept a small piece of citrine in my wallet for years to help clear the energy in my life around finances.

I have a piece on my alter that I regularly use to clear my crystals. The particular piece I use was gifted to me to be used in clearing of spaces ceremony, and it has attended every single house clearing I have done since. It is invaluable to me, travelling in bags with other minerals clearing them as we move to our next destination. In meditations it has brought healing and clearing to my solar plexus.

This mineral isn’t the fastest working mineral. Effects can be amplified with herkimer or quartz, or by placing it in a grid. Otherwise this mineral works slow and steady. Its persistent and determined with a steady pace, and will raise your frequency to be the same.

I recently decided I was going to work more with citrine on an abundance level. In the Liquid Oracle Crystal book (that comes with the cards) there is an exercise I’ve just prepared for: Take one orange candle and place it above the citrine card (in a candle holder). In between place a piece of paper with what you desire written on it. Burn the candle and meditate on what you want for 7 minutes each day for 21 days. What you want will either have manifested or you will know why not.

I’ll let you know how it goes when I try it!

2. Amethyst ~ works with the third eye

A multi-dimensional purple stone that clears spaces. Amethyst is one of the great transmutation stones and has been found in several different variations over the last fifty years or so. Any of the variations from auralite to super seven are great and powerful. Amethyst is a great mineral to have around because of its transmutation properties: it clears spaces, and helps keep everything at a rather high frequency.

It also works with the third eye, the intuitive center. Meditation with a piece of amethyst at your third eye will activate and open the chakra, if it isn’t already. Meditating simply holding the mineral in your hands and visualizing your energy filtering through the amethyst is an effective meditation of changing, healing, shifting your auric field. If your third eye is overactive meditating with amethyst will bring it into balance.

I have clusters, tumbled, and raw pieces of amethyst and its variations that litter my room and crystal collection. They are invaluable to me, and I usually rotate between the different ones which travel with me.

3. Rose Quartz ~ works with the heart

This one is a must have, especially for our Western Culture. This is a mineral that helps us to learn to love ourselves. When meditating with this mineral one can feel the pure love it emanates. It heals us by allowing us to receive love from ourselves and from others. It softly and gently leads us to a place where we can take care of ourselves first, and understanding that it’s okay to be selfish sometimes if that means you are taking care of yourself.

I worked with a big rose quartz ball for two years that was gifted to me. This past summer I gifted it to a wonderful woman. Rosie and I slept together almost every night during the period we were working with each other. I began a practice of asking myself when making decisions: Is this an act of self-love?

I learned to be okay releasing that which wasn’t serving me, which was challenging at times due to my own neurosis. I learned to recognize and be okay with the neurosis that I carry, seeing that it isn’t me. And the neurosis when expressed by others aren’t them either. It became easier to see the soul of others and myself. It became easier to not identify with my feelings.

And during that two years I really got to know myself well. And accept most of me.

Rose quartz is such a gentle, loving presence that subtly works on your energetic fields you will hardly feel it. If you do it will feel like you’ve fallen into a soft love cloud.

4. Selenite ~ works with the aura & all chakras

This is a soft white mineral who’s energy is equally as soft. It is a self clearing mineral as well, and I’ve worked with it in various forms, but mostly wands. This is an epic aura cleanser, and balancer of the energies in your chakras. It is the mineral to grab for healing work if you are unsure which one to use because its so versatile.

I’ve used this mineral to extract and reduce pain, to clear the aura, to clear the chakras, in dream work, to open up my intuition and to faciliate communication with my guides. I keep a selenite wand beside my bed always to clear the dream space to allow me to have good dreams, similar to a dream catcher.

5. A grounding mineral ~ works with the root/sacral depending on mineral

I couldn’t decide what to make the fifth mineral. There are so many amazing ones, so I tried to imagine that I had a back of these four minerals, what would make it feel complete? A mineral for grounding! But which one? That depends on the person’s frequencies!

This last mineral I would say would need to be one of the following: Hematite, Black Obsidian, Black Tourmaline or Carnelian. All of these minerals can be used for grounding from a different frequency and a different way. It’s up to you to use the one that is most effective for you.

Some minerals I find too heavy for me and get headaches, slow and a lack of clarity. Other minerals don’t seem to affect me, while some minerals are just perfect for me, like carnelian.

So if I were to give you or sell you a bag of minerals as a starter set to the mineral kingdom that’s what I would put in the bag, with whichever grounding crystal you would prefer. This gives you ample minerals to explore and get you used to their energies and the way they work without overwhelming you. The minerals are powerful and versatile but gentle, so its a beautiful introduction to the mineral kingdom in my opinion.

Rhodochrosite – Seer of Love, Knower of Thyself

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Rhodochrosite is an amazing stone that works with the heart. It is known for the ability to see how love will follow on a certain path but is more important as a stone for the love of self. This stone doesn’t care what anyone else thinks and gently brings the user into clearer awareness and action of self love.

Rhodocrosite is a beautiful and lovely stone that can carry the user on a journey into their heart. Use this stone to travel into the emotional body and reconcile messages, beliefs, and thoughts that no longer serve us. This stone will softly and gently show the wearer of all that one needs to know about oneself. The stone is not shy and encourages intimate friendship with all parts of oneself.

Don’t worry, this stone is so soft and gentle and loving that no matter where she takes you you will feel the soft hug of her loving presence. You are never alone with Rhodocrosite by your side – all parts of you will be friends, loves, connected and open.

Keywords: Love, soft, gentle, know oneself, friends, Rhodochrosite, self-love, awareness.

Chakra: Heart

Astrological Signs: Leo, Scorpio

Planet: Mars

Animal: Cat

Rhodochrosite is also known as Inca Rose, because of the belief the Inca have of the blood of their former rulers being turned into this stone.

The beautiful red-pink colour of Rhodocrosite attracts people from all walks of life. It is a stone that is heart-centered, with many saying it is the Stone of Love and Balance, and a healer of the Earth that shows love to the Mother of us all.

This is a stone that will open up a closed heart, and heal a heart that has been jaded by life and the past. Rhodochrosite will help calm down anxieties and promote deeper insight with love and compassion into any situation. The stone will help to align a persons thinking to a balance between thinking about others and themselves. It will awaken the interest of the user to responsibilities and duties regarding community and society. Responsibilities are not a burden, but something to with joy.

Self-confidence and self-love grows. Energy and passion increase as the stone works with the user to guide them in their personal healing journey, and to what they truly love to do, and be.

Using this stone will help the user to regain trust in the world and people that come into their lives. Rhodochrosite works on the psychological level to release past trauma, and will help increase concentration, a feeling of inner peace, and forgiveness for the user and others.

The stone brings forth the feeling that we are never alone and always loved and helps the user to learn how to love themselves instead of filling a void with food, other people, shopping, etc. This in turn teaches the user how to have healthy relationships with themselves and other. While it does this it helps bring out a positive and enthusiastic attitude – can be a positive influence on people experiencing depression.

It is said that Healers can use this stone to clear the auric field as well to increase love on all levels.

Physically Rhodocrosite focuses on the kidneys and reproductive organs. It is noted for its healing work in blood pressure, circulation, joint problems and migraines.

Rhodocrosite works with time, so allow a week’s time to pass with consistent usage before expecting to see a result. I saw results in about a week when I worked with my Rhodocrosite.

Key Sources

http://www.charmsoflight.com/rhodochrosite-healing-properties.html

http://astrobix.com/astroblog/post/rhodochrosite-gemstone-meaning-rhodochrosite-metaphysical-healing-properties-rhodochrosite-crystals.aspx

http://www.findyourfate.com/gemology/gemstones/Rhodochrosite.html

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Serafina Christine is a creative free spirited cyclist and mystic who has committed to learning how to best Follow Her Bliss. She is the creator of Willows Lavender, where she specializes in readings and gemstone therapy, including gemstone elixirs.

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