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How to Find the Right Psychic for You | A Good Psychic

fortune tellerIt’s hard to tell who is a good and authentic psychic in this field. Con artists have given this field a bad rap because it isn’t hard to say “I’m a psychic” and with awesome marketing get the public in and make a fortune. I’ve experienced it. It’s taken me a couple of years to be able to tell who is a good and true psychic verses not, but its a challenge.

Before I came into this line of work I had never been to a psychic. It always seemed kind of, well, redundant to me. But after being in this field I began to check out other psychics. I wanted to know what they were like. I wanted to learn from them. I wanted to know more about what a good psychic is like.

I’ve felt duped more than a few times.

I’ve cried on Venice Beach after a “crystal reader” made me feel like sh*t and that there was no hope in the world for me to live my dreams. She projected her beliefs on me when I came to her in such an open hearted way, excited to meet in person another crystal reader. It’s rare I meet a crystal reader, however, she was not a crystal reader. She was a con artist.

Note: If the reader is projecting their beliefs onto you, they are not a good reader. A good reader is someone who is clean and clear, who has little to no need to project their beliefs onto you. They only offer information that serves you, not what they believe to be true (and often is) in their reality. Your reality and life path is totally different and doesn’t operate in the same way as the psychics in many respects. Leave that psychic before they can make you cry. Please. Please!

I’ve walked way from another highly recommended psychic shaking my head, feeling that I wasted my money. Half of what she had said was coming from her ego, her framework. The information was not clean and pure. It took me weeks to sort through her information to find what was true verses what was simply her opinions.

Note: This is another case very similar to projection, however, this one felt very ego oriented where the one on Venice Beach actually believed that she was helping. This reading had a lot of “I”m smarter and older and this is the truth of the matter no matter what you say/believe/think. I’m going to tell you how the world is. I know what’s right.” feelings to it in-between the valuable information. There was nothing valuable to take from the Venice Beach psychic while this one did give me valuable information. This one felt more like a power trip than projection. Stay clear of those who power trip!

I’ve also had very good experiences that have left my heart open knowing the truth was spoken with an open heart and that the person speaking was not coming from ego. Ironically enough, these experiences have often come from when I do a card reading trade with someone that I’ve taught how to read cards or someone who doesn’t consider themselves a professional in the field.

Qualities of  a Good Psychic

truthcomesfromtheheartIn my honest and humble opinion my experiences have led me to believe that a “good psychic” is someone who is consistently working on clearing their channel and releasing things that keep them from their core of unconditional love.

A “good psychic” is always going to do his/her best to come from the heart with a sense of detachment to the outcome of the situation. Any form of attachment will influence the reading.

A “good psychic” will be open and honest, even if they know the client doesn’t want to hear the truth. They know that the client has come to hear the truth no matter if they like it.

A “good psychic” is constantly expanding their framework and truths about the Universe and will have a daily practice to help facilitate this.

A “good psychic” will allow the flow of the Universe, of the Highest Self, of that which Guides from Unconditional Love, to do the speaking, and knows that what they gift to other is not them. They are simply the channel for the information of the client’s Highest Self to come through. A reminder. A confirmation. Guidance to help their client come closer to themselves.

What to Look For in a Psychic

1. The number one thing to finding a good psychic is to pay attention to word of mouth. Ask your friends. Read the testimonials. See if what is being spoken about is what resonates with you.

All psychics from what I can tell have very different styles. Some are more inspirational and self-empowering (like myself) while others are more down to Earth this is what’s happening whether you like it or not. Both styles are great, however, different people respond differently to the ways the information comes to them. If you are someone who responds well to being told very straightforward what is happening then find someone’s who’s style reflects that. If you want someone who is soft and comes from the heart, then look for that in the testimonials you read.

2. Does the psychic you are looking at resonate with you? 

This is helpful if you can meet with the psychic or call them to have a conversation. It’s even better if they have a website. What you are looking for here is to see if you agree with what they stand for, with what they speak about, with what they think. You want to find someone that when they say something part of you is going “yes, yes, that’s truth to me.” Take time to look around their social media, their websites, etc. and see if that happens for you.

Pay attention to the framework from which they operate from. You want to find a psychic with the largest frame work you can because a large framework encompasses all of the smaller frameworks. What this means is that you want to find someone who is wiser than yourself. You want to find someone who understands where you are at and can take you to the next level. You don’t want someone that you go to and they tell you what your mother says. You want someone who goes beyond where you can go, who can go deeper into the unconscious and collective consciousness realms.

3. Where does the psychic operate from?

Many times when we are trying to find psychics we are trying to find those who operate from the heart center and not the ego. We want a person that connects with us at a deep level and isn’t in it just for the money. There are several ways that this can be defined from reading their blog posts, to their actions in the world, to the hear-say from friends, to what is said on the website and so on. This is something that is often intuitively uncovered as we look over the materials that they present to the world.

I can tell you that the more the psychic comes from the ego the less accurate they will be.

4. How does the psychic make you feel? 

This is key. People who are looking for psychic guidance will often attend body mind expos and psychic fairs. They will often come across a psychic in person. So pay attention. When you are in the company of the psychic how do you feel? How about when you leave? How about when you phone them to chat? How do you feel when you get off the phone?

If you feel drained, tired, marginalized, small, stupid or anything else like that then chances are that is not the psychic for you. After seeing a psychic you may feel like you’ve received a lot of information but as that information processes it should uplift you, feel true to you, resonate with you, and empower you in some way.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA5. Recognize that the psychic your best friend goes to you might not be right for you. 

In number one I say ask for recommendations and now I’m saying that the recommendations might not be right for you.

What’s up?

Recommendations are a great way to start getting connected into the realm of psychics and to how they work. The people who are recommending you to someone will often tell you why. They will say “I really like her because she always seems to come from the heart” or “He’s super good at what he does. I always find him to be accurate” or “She helped me through one of the toughest decisions I had to make”.

Those people too will be able to tell you what to expect in a reading.

They often can get you an introductory rate to the see the psychic as many of the psychics I know have a discounted rate for those who come referred through regular clients. 

Conclusion

Finding the right psychic for you is a very personal process. You want someone who resonates with you, will tell you the truth, is accurate, and will provide the best customer service they can. You want someone who helps you be more of you, in my opinion.

For those of you who do have visited psychics, what do you look for?

 

Bloodstone – Truth-Teller

We welcome you

To the reign of truth

As time beats by

Bloodstone sits still

More than all ages

Old wisdom hidden

On-lookers disbelief

As they are caught distraught

In falsities, lies, illusions

Some accept this wisdom

To grow and vibrate cleaner

But others resist and attack

Truth-teller does not judge

He simply comes to let

All illusions to fly away

So all we will see

Is our Truth and Light.

Bloodstone is a powerful stone, a crystal ally if you wish. He helps to unveil an illusions you may have, or others in the vicinity of his energy. Because of this he is good to have on you when engaging in conversations you “need answers” from.

This stone is a deep green with red dots. It was said at one time that bloodstone was created during the war of the Gods and from their spilled blood formed this crystal.

This is an excellent crystal to learn and use in times when discernment is needed for any situation. He does not like to be fooled and will bring insight and wisdom to any situation you sit and about while holding him.

Bloodstone works with the heart and root connecting them with the third eye via intuition. When Bloodstone gives insight it is very heart centred and will serve the highest good of all involved, not ego.

Meditating with bloodstone daily will begin the process of integrating or dismantling the ego if you intend it to. It is highly recommended you allow the space and time you need for this process – daily meditations might not be the best for each person as dismantling the ego can bring up a lot at times.

Bloodstone loves to sit close to people in general, so it is best to keep him in a space that has more people around, say in a dish on a coffee table in the living room. He likes to adventure and explore other places so do not be surprised if he transitions to other temporary homes.


Do you have a gemstone or mineral inside your collection that you love and are curious about it? Do you wonder how best to work with it? Or what its purpose is for you? I do gemstone readings in person and by distance! Click here to find out more.

Serafina Christine is a creative free spirited cyclist and mystic who has committed to learning how to best Follow Her Bliss. She is the creator of Willows Lavender, where she specializes in readings and gemstone therapy, including gemstone elixirs.

 

Book Review: Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism

Hello!

Something I want to do on this blog is a review on some of the many books that I read and the decks that I use in my readings. I plan to do one of each a month for fun! I like to share my thoughts, opinions and ideas about these things. 🙂

First up: Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism by Chogyam Trungpa

Spiritual Materialism is a book I loved. It was a book that the Universe very strongly wanted me to read. Within a week I met a few people who told me about this book and how I need to read it. So when I found a copy in a community book case, I traded books. Now I own my own copy (gratefully so) because this is one book that I would read over again. Possibly again.

This particular book is actually a transcription of a series of lectures given by Trungpa Rinpoche in the early seventies. The book flows extremely well even with the lecture and a Q & A at the end of each major section to further explain the lecture. The author has a brilliant mastery of English and Sanskrit, teaching throughout the book Sanskrit words and their true meaning from the very root, which I found interesting.

We are guided humorously yet deeply through the inner workings of the ego and mind, and all of the stages from where we begin on the path, to when we get a guru, to beyond the guru and into Tantra. It’s all done with a Tibetan Buddhist point of view and context, with stories to illustrate important points. I felt that I was uncovering things within myself as I read the lectures, and often had to stop and contemplate what was being said.

I found the material covered in the book to be deep and intense. A sense of humor is one of the things most valued by the speaker, and he certainly makes use of it in his lectures. The details of what Spiritual Materialism is – the pursuit of spirituality that feeds the ego- starts off the book, but it quickly turns onto another topic: The ego. The line of thinking is that in order to understand how spirituality can feed our ego, we need to understand the ego. Rinpoche guides us with a very simple metaphor of a monkey being stuck in a room. With this monkey we learn how ego is created and the patterns it has.

One of the things I enjoyed most in the book is that there seems to contain a guide of a spiritual path that most people tend to follow. As different parts were described I could identify with particular parts that I have witnessed in my life, some of the good parts and some of the bad ones. This book is definitely a keeper, and one that I will definitely enjoy re-reading.

Near the end of the book, even though I was reading through the book rather slowly for my pace my brain started to feel overwhelmed. I felt that there was a lot of information coming from the book, and I’m not confident in my ability to recall information from the last chapter or two of the book. There were a few incidences in the book where my beliefs don’t match up with Rinpoches beliefs, and that’s okay. This book is heavily from a Tibetan Buddhist point of view.

This book is one that I loved. I think it is one that I will keep in my library for a long time coming, and is one that many people would find a good read at some point on their path. It is an honest look at the ego and Spiritual Materialism, one that is rarely found.

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